I have always understood that one of the reasons that a person discusses a certain subject with a person who is completely opposed to the viewpoints of the original person is because both parties involved want to understand how the other party thinks and why.
I do not believe the same can be said for the majority of religious discussions that take place here because with the majority of people making these discussions the fervor (which occasionally becomes a hatred) that they display to those that oppose them suggests closed-mindedness. I also believe that the topic is often closed-minded in its very nature. It strikes me that very few people broach the topic of religion with a sense of neutrality to the same, the majority of those who choose to pursue the topic are either definitely religious, or definitely not religious.
As a result of those items, it strikes me that the idea behind the religious debates is to prove one or more people wrong, but that is (at least as of right now) not entirely possible. If there was any absolute, concrete or irrefutable proof that there is or is not a God, and that proof were to surface, one side would win, one side would lose and the debate would end. Considering that this topic has been debated for centuries and no universally accepted conclusion has been attained, the debate must be had largely for one side to try to sway the opinions of the other side.
I can certainly understand this from the perspective of those who are religious because, in many religions, it is a matter of doctrine that one should, “Spread the word,” of God or Allah or whatever the case may be.
The first thing that I do not understand is why athiests pursue the topic with equal, if not greater, fervor than those who are admittedly religious. What does an athiest gain from arguing, even proving, that there is not a god of any kind, what possible motive can there be to want to take a belief away from someone rather than instill a belief in that person? I’m sure there are a few athiests who choose not to believe in a god because they are worried about the consequences if there is a god, but I am equally sure most athiests legitimately do not believe in god.
Another thing is, with the whole Heaven/Hell eternal salvation or torment thing, the Christians and other religious people have something at stake, a belief in something greater than themselves, a reason to follow a moral code of conduct. The athiests on the other hand belief that they have nothing to lose (in most cases) as there will be no eternal judgment cast upon them.
Ultimately, the odds of a friend or family member (at least in my experience) changing an individual’s religious beliefs by way of debate are very low, so what are the odds of changing someone’s mind when the person whose mind you are trying to change has no personal stake in your friendship?
I mean, a little bit of friendly debate is definitely a good thing, as is occasionally having your values checked and having to defend them, but I have seen things become positively hateful.
My question is, why have the debate when you know that there (at least at this point) is no absolute proof one way or another and you also know that you are not going to change any minds at the particular venue where you are having the debate?