i agree chanbeng that probably nobody has the right to talk to god more than me.
luckily, we can all talk to god. call him the universe and observe the effects that our and others’ decisions have and we can use that info from god to imagine hypothetical situations.
imagine you are dying and in need of a brand new heart. somebody whos a real nice guy, a real great christian guy who sacrifices for the community all the freaking time. he shows up minutes after you get the hospital, gets down on his knees and says chanbengchin, i want to give you my heart.
honestly i guess its possible that you would selfishly gobble that opportunity right up, but i would feel pretty bad about it. so bad that i would never put somebody else in that position.
god filled the universe with two different kinds of events, ones that humans control and ones that they dont. the latter, therefore are the ones that they are forced to accept. i think the golden rule only applies to those things that are controlled by humans. perhaps this completely prevents the presence of these kinds of exceptions to the golden rule youre talking about?
in this case, the germs or bad decisions on the part of the guy with a bad heart are what caused his healable pain. they have been dealt to him, whether it was his fault or stupidity or not. to maliciously transfer that pain to somebody else who was not dealt gods will would be wrong if he did it on purpose and he knows that transfering either way would surely kill his friend.
according to the golden rule, the badhearted man KNOWS that he is not supposed to take a heart, because it will hurt others. and all the other potential heart donors know that this is so. he knows that he will feel really guilty if someone does it behind his back because he can guess that any non-suicidal donor would have prefered to stay alive.
unless of course we are talking about a guy who has a bad heart and is a valuable community leader. thats another equation… but its there.
…about that ambiguous community effect,
usually, when you sacrifice, the good that is accomplished is worth more than the sacrifice. in this case it killed somebody and took off a certain number of years from the end of their life, and added a few more to other guy.
if they guy gains more years than the donor lost and you can somehow know that beforehand, well thats hard. id do it for my son definetely. say you give a 40 year old a kidney, well then its quite possible that the number of years the 40 year old lives is greater than the number of years the donor doesnt live.
in that case id say the guy who just chopped off a decade or so from the donor’s life would feel pretty guilty, but overall selfishly happy that it happened. therefore, if this was our wife and it was made quite clear that the gain was more years than the loss, then maybe denying our wife a kidney could be a transgression comparable to saving your family by killing an innocent guy or something.
whatever it is, it does not matter. all that matters is if you think you did good. thats all that god can possibly expect from us. he gave us a universe that can shape our beliefs such that we can see the world through entirely different eyes that see crazy, unrelated views on morality and what constitutes a neighbor. it is completely possible to believe anything, and possible to follow that as best as you think can be done. if you didnt know it was bad and that that information was available, theres no way your accountable.