The one factor that most significantly diminishes your chances of success is when you decide to stop trying. That decision alone can drop your chances of success down to about as close to zero as possible. As the maxim goes, “try, try again.â€
Most failures are caused by a few temporary conditions outside of you. Most successes are caused by a collection of many stable conditions inside of you. Successes often results from the cooperation of good factors. If you keep trying then you give yourself another chance for the best durable conditions inside of you to win out over the worst transitory conditions outside of you.
The impact of any setback can be very small. You have a strong degree of influence over how you respond to any setback that you encounter. You can respond to any setback with optimism. You can see the setback as individual and particular. You can see the setback as insignificant and insubstantial. You can see the setback as brief and transitory. In most cases setbacks are what you make of them.
When I was involved in military action, I believed that it was most important to know when to leave. Knowing when ti approach was important too. That’s when you’re fresh though and things are easier. When you keep trying at something you can literally and figuratively run out of ammo, then what?
It’s better to, know yourself an know the situation, before you accidentally get overwhelmed. If you do, then you might not be able to retreat.
I think of some college educated people here. They get this degree, and then another and another to try and get ahead, but they’ve defeated themselves with the cost, and so will never get ahead in their lifetime.
Now you do bring up an important point. In situations where the consequences of failure are potentially very severe (like getting shot or killed) then using a lot of optimism is very foolish. Likewise when the consequences of failure are very mild then not using optimism is very foolish.
Yes achieving a goal is a lot to deal with what you posted. Obviously if you give up you are not going to do it!
What sets some apart from others when it comes to achieving in this way is the focus and the belief that obstacles can be overcome. A goal isn’t worth attaining if it is easy and anyone could do it. The fact that is ti difficult is what brings about the reward of getting it.
It is good to be aware of what you may need to put aside when you focus on your goal(s). Sacrifice is usually a big part and you need to be willing to face the consequences of that.
I don’t think you need to yield to Mr. Predictable’s point. Even if you find yourself in a situation in which you’re not full prepared…well…go back and prepare some more!
And if you find yourself outnumbered…well…go back and get reinforcements!
And why is getting shot all that important? Prepare better.
Either way, getting shot ultimately could be said to be on a par with almost any other game in the universe. I like to be alive too, but if your game is guns, then your game is guns. I think your idea still applies in full xanderman.
You are correct in that I did not need to yield, but I did want to yield in this case.
Yes when one has opportunity for such a thing then doing more preparation and/or gaining more allies can be quite useful! In certain situations those opportunities may not exist.
More often than not optimism is very useful, but it is no panacea. There are some instances when other outlooks are more useful.
Looking at a relationship point of view, sometimes it takes wisdom to know when to stop trying. For example, to stop loving someone who does not love you. Trying only makes things worse and sometimes success is not gained from trying.
If you are trying to build a relationship with someone you had a fight with or falling out with, consider the emotional consequences that may be involved when trying to win the one you loved.
But perhaps giving up is part of the success… and not failure
