After living in that shi*ty boarding house of mine, from which I will move out as of end of this week. I have gained a new perspective on the social ladder.
We all start off our life equally, educationally speaking. We all have chance to go to the same school. So what makes a person successful or unsuccessful at school applies in life as well.
At school, I am successful because I am intelligent and I work hard. A person does not well may work harder than me, but he is not so intelligent, so while I get over 95 in all my exams, he manages to score in the 80s.
Now, in life, a lazy loser does no work. so he is poor. but unlike others, he makes no attempt at saving his megre income. so he takes on drugs like pot, which disasterous effect can be seen with a 23 yr old man with the IQ of a 14 yr old. This I have witnessed myself.
so he is lazy. means he does not have a stable job, no stable income. so he is poor.
[size=150]A PERSON IS FIRST OF ALL LAZY, THEN HE BECOMES POOR.[/size]
Now, the poor loser drinks and smokes like his life is dependant on it. so he has even less cash. At this stage, he becomes angry and bitter and resent the world, so he becomes a determinist and blame it all on ‘bloody society’ without ever taking a good look at himself.
so naturally, if he is married, his wife would leave him. In the cases I witnessed, the wife took the kids from the loser and changed the kids’ last names so as to sever all connection to the loser, which is understandable. Then the loser becomes more bitter and resentful. He becomes repressed and violent. He becomes cruel because no one loves him, not that he is loveable.
At this point, nothing can be done for the loser. The final battle in which he has to lose is the battle of life and death. so if he is courageous enough he would committe suicide.
The winner is like this, even though a winner might face the same challanges, a winner when fallen down would get up and push forward, forever reaching upwards, towards greater, more dizzying heights. He works hard and is persistent. He is determined and loves responsibility. He is strong and kind and understanding. So he marries to a good wife, have kind children, he honors his parents and so he moves upwards.
The worst thing one can do is to be jealous and does nothing to improve oneself.
Jealousy ought to be a motivator for improvement and not to induce set back. All set backs MUST be conquered.
So a person on the road to being a loser can be helped in 20s or 30s, but if he is in his 40s, he has crystalised and nothing can be done. He becomes a burden to society, he is filled with self-hate, and arrogance, he despises himself and others. He becomes a hateful, arrogant, cruel, insolent, violent fu*ker. the only place he belongs to is prison.
Now, if not by the free will of the loser, why is he at the bottom of the ladder if not by his sheer laziness? a Winner must work hard in all aspects of life, embrace life and not hate it. This is the truth.