I was just asked to write a column in my local newspaper. I can’t tell a lie… nepotism was my best friend, but I am so psyched. I was thinking of calling it Ask Yomama, but then you might tell on me when I am syndicated. LOL You know all my Bessy secrets (at least you old-timers do).
Sorry for my gratuitous bragging, but I have had a really difficult year, so I wanted you all to know. My band is well (you know that damn mess) and my mother hates me, and some other personal issues for slitting my virtual wrists. I feel like I hit the jackpot at the end of the rainbow.
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I want to thank my good buddies here who have been so kind to me this year. You know who you are. And they say I’m too emotional. Damn straight!
Thank you, Peter. If someone told me that I could have raised all these kids, been in a band and have a column it might have been worth all the anit-depressants I have needed in my forties. (I will feel guilty in the morning for tooting, but I want to scream.)
Ask Yomama tells you a lot, but I have a Fine Arts degree, and am not just a musician, so they want more of an “arts” thingy. I may get both if I stick in there and push. I have an awful lot of experience (30 years) of soccer mummy, so I want that to be my focus - over scheduling, fair discipline, single parenting, sex ed at home, drinking and drugs… all my favorite topics.
I need to be staying out of the Bessy mentality or I may be sued. One day I will post my photo here, but I have a residue of Bessiness still; but one day.
I ask because I think that it would be interesting to read something written by a musician that operates in the real world. I wouldn’t be too inclined to read about general fine arts goings on, but I enjoy reading about the same from the perspective of a struggling non-professional.
I can think of a young writer from NYC that did much the same thing and became very successful. He discussed happening in the city, but from his own unique perspective. A lot of people must think that being a musician is all fun, but it’s not and that would be great to hear about.
That is a good point. You know, every dream we have does have a downside. If you think that it is sweet being away from your family on a Saturday night from 9-2 in a bar filled with drunks, carry your own equipment and deal with all the egos and hurt feelings (me, of course) - think again. I loved the opportunity to continue my music, but you become a “whore” for your employer with the music they want you to play and how they want you to play it.
I do like your idea… and I am not turned on at all about Fine Arts - blah blah blah… I think this column will have its downfall too, so we shall see, eh?
Real life is about dreams being attained only to realize that nothing is a bed of roses. There are deadlines, egos and sacrifices we must make.
I am (still) trying to publish my book. I gave it to Tab who liked it, but thought is was too short.(150 pages?) I trusted his opinion, but (honestly) I have some major connections and I still can’t get it published. My bro is a famous writer (yes, he will remain anonymous here) but you would get a kick, believe me. : )
I would really like to put it here, but haven’t decided if I am breaking down and a) publishing it myself or b) e-publishing it, so I hate to put my work out there for all to see - yet. I had a ball writing it, but (you know me) it is so personal that I pretty much scared the life out of all my children. LOL
For now, I will be relegated to winning the poetry contests on ILP.
By the way, Bessy, I have known more than one person to have self-published and made a few bucks - at least not lost money. What’s the book about?
Oh - and if you establish yourself with your column, it might help with the marketing, whether self-published or not. You might want to wait a bit and see.
Thanks, guys. I get it out there and hundreds have read it – it is all about my Bessy. I have gotten slammed here for her Bessiness, but I need her once in a while dammit - it is me (or shall I say… the Bessiness in all women).
I think the column is a vehicle, which puts the pressure on. I’m lovin’ it. Bessy enjoys the stimulation when she isn’t choosing her lingerie or meeting men in Florida.
