Wasn't sure where to pose this question...

I’m curious as to whether reality can be shaped by certain seemingly unconnected events in your life or whether we notice certain things more as we look for them. The situation I’m in that brings this question about is one I’ve referred to on here before, but not in this context… I’m (for all the purposes of this question) in love with one of my friends, whom I haven’t seen for about 4 months. Let’s call her “Mollie.”

Now I’m probably not the best authority on this, but to the best of my knowledge, Mollie isn’t one of those names that is terribly common. It’s more like one of those names like Jared, that you hear every now and then and it doesn’t surprise you, but you don’t know 50 people with that name. That being said, in the past year I’ve had a Mollie in probably 25% of my classes and I’ve heard numerous references to the name, including a doll that my sister used to have, a singer, (many times–>) someone referring to a friend of theirs, and even peoples’ families.

What’s with the sudden outbreak? Is it what some people would refer to as a sign, or am I looking too hard and discovering that the name is much more common than I thought?

Any opinions?

Man, you’re going to be seeing waaaaay more coincidences from now on

I see 420 about 20 times a day now, even though it only comes by twice.

Everything is symbolic – trust your intuition.

Time is an illusion and you’re watching yourself, subjectively. What you notice is importance… it’s everything.

Yeah, I agree. Go with intuition. I think there are signs for sure. I also believe when there is a connection between two people sometimes one can feel (or see in the form of signs) that the other is thinking of them. But I wouldn’t act or not act on the basis of it, as Old_ Gobbo said stick with intuition.

Ever get a new car, or think about getting a certain car, and all of a sudden, you sse many of these cars as you drive around? But you didn’t notice them before?

Of course you have. The Universe is all too happy to reconfigure for our edifictaion. Happens all the time.

thanks for the replies. i have always found things like this interesting but this is such a massively overdone job by nature that i had to wonder if something else wasn’t happening there.

in later news, semi-related to this topic, i actually just told her how i felt (via email) and i’m still waiting for a reply. this wouldn’t be congratulatable if it hadn’t been three years in coming.

Cool. Best of luck. Keep us posted.

Well, and I see this very same thing happen to me excessively.

It makes sense to me that an object/subject/what have you whether singular or in a multitude would not come to your attention if there were no occasion for it to enter your mind other than it manifesting itself in a special occurence(like meeting a lovely face for instance…).

Like when a person of perfectly sound mind is lost deep in thought and misses something anyone else would consider obvious like a door mayhap.

It’s just being distracted by anything else your mind deems of more importance while completely dismissing the “less important” things. You can’t be aware of everything at once…

Basically what I was going to say hah…

I think so.

I used to see signs in everything, and I kept doing it so much that eventually I could look at any mundane thing and see a sign in it.

Then I realized…wait a second, this is completely ridiculous. Because its ridiculously self-centered to think that the world and everyone else in it is revolving around you.
The Mollie’s that you see everywhere are real people, they do not simply exist to give you a sign.
Every person can look at Mollie and see something different in her that may be a different sign to them.
Its really just coincidences, I wouldn’t take it seriously.

Although…I can’t entirely refute the notion of signs.
I would probably take it more seriously if it were something more important then the girl I have an extreme crush on (which is something that you are obsessed with so your reasoning will be blurred).

more than likely, yeah. we’ll see if the coincidences subside any, because i just got a reply to my email that basically said “thanks for telling me, i’m not even sure i could have done that. all i can offer is friendship but i’m happy to offer that.” which was better than i expected in two ways:

  1. she replied to it
  2. she wasn’t pissed off

which of course, she had every right to be. it shouldn’t have taken me that long to tell her.

but… problem solved? mostly? i guess it is, even if i wish there were more to it than that. if the problem is really solved then i would expect my life to clear up somewhat (meaning, if the problem is solved, i shouldn’t meet somebody else named mollie every other day.)

so i guess we’ll just see, won’t we?

Oh, shit, man - the “f” word.

Sorry.

Yeah thats harsh dude, but…now you can move on.

But just write her off completely, dude. They use that “friend” thing to gain complete control over you. You know, knowing that you feel differently.

Women are alien reptilian shapeshifters.

it’s not that big of a deal. it’s what i was expecting to hear (if she replied).

and i have reason to believe she was sincere. she’s never lied to me before. it’s one of the things i like about her.

Stop it right now! Harden your heart.

Unless you enjoy the danger.

what the hell is wrong with friendship?! is it not a basis to lead to greater things?

Riiiight.

it’s a basis to lead to greater things if both people want it to.

what faust is trying to insinuate is that she’s just freaked out by my wanting it to, and says, essentially “yeah… about that… let’s just stay friends, mkay?” whilst really she is going “FREAK.”

i’m fairly sure this isn’t the case, but i know it’s not going any further than actual friendship. that’s all.

It’s not your imagination :

" At her mid-1980s peak, Molly Ringwald [Brat Pack Member] was all over pop culture, setting fashion trends for teenaged girls and appearing on the cover of Time Magazine."
nndb.com/people/616/000022550

  • Therefore - it’s quite likely that plenty of baby girls born around 20 years ago would have been named Molly *

P.S. - If it was me - I would use her friendship as a tool for getting introduced to her female friends - flirt with them openly while she’s watching… this will make her jealous.

it’s a thought, but i’m not really the kind of guy that would keep going after she’s already told me it’s not going to happen.

Dude - I’m not saying she’s freaking at all. But SirEbrum’s got a great idea. So what if she doesn’t get jealous? You’re still meeting babes.