Have you ever fell in love with someone, decided it wasn’t the best relationship to get into, but then you can’t seem to get them out of your head? Its driving me absolutly mad, and I can’t even fathom why it is I am so attracted to them. Alright I do know, it was his Charm, Charisma, Intellect, and fun imagination, but I can’t! We have decided not to proceed with this relationship, but it hurts me so bad. I have evolved beyond my sweet nature, and now I have become down right agressive because of this heartbreak. What is worse is I’m with a great guy right now, and I want to be with him, but all I can think about is the other guy! why! how do I stop this, I don’t want to be in love with him anymore! why does love do this to people, why does it linger on the heart and mind untill it gives in and collapses, what do I do!I don’t know what this emotion wants from me!
I don’t mean to belittle your emotions but I bet it’s not half as bad as you make it all sound. Lighten up a bit! I’m sure you know what it is you really want, so go for it! It is possible to do without hurting people however contrary that may seem.
Phenyl Ethyl Amine.
Eat a whole bunch of chocolate. Watch the discovery channel and try to notice that really all monkeys are the same.
If you can’t be with the monkey you love, love the monkey you are with.
There is more to it than that of course,
oh, hang on,
there isn’t.
It wants a second chance. There is something unfinished with the first guy. Go find out what it is. You cannot with a clean heart and soul commit to someone else while you are emotionally attached to the first guy. It does not have to a romantic relation you may just need him in your life. he may need you. So see if you can’t be friends. See if there is some way to start over.
If you can’t do this then I also suggest talking about it with a close friend get it off your chest. Work it out and see if there is some sort of way to talk the emotion away.
Well I certainly don’t reckon you’ve got much hope in changing your emotions yourself. At best, do your utmost to not entertain those thoughts when they pop into your head. How do you commentate on those thoughts anyway? Is it a case of “but maybe I’m stupidly walking away from the real deal!?” or “there is no way whatsoever this could work; suppress with rage all thoughts to the contrary?” If you are utterly convinced of the latter, your lustings should (in theory) eventually wither away; otherwise it would be strangely paradoxical.
Love’s a gamble. You can’t ensure you’re gonna love someone til the day you die. Pick your ex and you could live happily ever after. Stay with you man and you could live happily ever after. Or either vice versa. Whatever the case, people often confuse ‘better’ or ‘worse’ with ‘different’. The mad and yet obvious thing is that there will only ever be once sequence of events for you - comparison with what could have been is mere speculation. Just try and think what life and relationship you most likely want - and who’s the more likely candidate to join you. With each choice comes countless what-could-have-beens. It’s down to you to minimise grounds for regret. I guess it’s your task to reconcile your head with your heart. Only time can test for compatibility; it’s up to you how much you invest in either bloke when looking ahead.
When I look back I could think of a couple of fish I regret letting slip through the net, aching over what could have been. Yet the direct intensity I once felt for them has wained since ceasing to see them. Perhaps that’s a good sign. Perhaps not. Perhaps the love that is most far-reaching is that which is least easily described or reducible to attributes typically found in dating agencies’ compatibility tests! A simple question would be, Whom do you feel the most comfortable with, i.e with whom can sarah epic drop all facade and be herself?
Yesterday’s love was a union of two people who liked each other in every fashion above all things in existance.
Today’s love is a financial arrangement of monetary success followed by sexual eroticism.
You guys are probably right. Its hard to reconnect with him however, mainly because he makes me nervous. I do want him in my life, what position to place him in is the question.[ oow its thundering outside] I’m sorry for the random burst of emotion but, come on, the forum is called Mundane Babble so why not. What’s this talk of monkeys? I don’t even like monkeys! Although I do agree The Discovery channel has saved me on numerous occasions.
No matter who was involved in that decision not to move forward with the relationship someone was left out. Find that “person†who is with you. Listen to that “person†in whatever way is required for you to be able to receive the message.
Accept that this love exists. It is real. That does not mean that you have to serve it or obey it, only that you cannot ignore it, deny it or negate it. Be with that love. It is your messenger. It is your helper. You may not like it and you don’t have to like it, you only must accept its existence. It will depart of its own accord just as it arrived of its own accord. Just do not waste your time trying to force it away from you before it is ready to leave.
Sit with that love and listen to it. Let it deliver its wordless message to you. It has a gift for you and will not rest easy until that gift is delivered. Accept it with gratitude.
Love is not your master or your slave, it is your friend. Respect your friend and the aid it wants to give to you.
What is love
Oh baby, don’t hurt me
Don’t hurt me no more
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh uh-uh
Here’s what you do.
Tally up results of admirable traits for both men. Whoever gets the highest score wins. Well, as long as your lost lover remains single.
I tried that, it was a tie. I suppose your right, I’ll just accept it and let it be, because thats all it was, just there, if that makes sense.
Its fun, I am traped between the Logical thinker vs the, whats the word for it, unconventional thinker. Actually I have decided to stay with the person I am with, because that is really the best thing for me. I’m just having trouble letting go I suppose. Oh well, that ship has sailed, [sighs]we should start a new topic, perhaps something I know nothing of so I can learn something new.
I am with you half-way. Still trying to get her out of my head, not the easiest thing ever. Best advice I can say is don’t try and forget them… there is a reason you are remembering them so try and flush it out. You are either looking for something in them or lacking something in your currant relationship. Psychoanalyze your way to truth! (sorry, I had to throw the last line in. Too much Lacan lately.)
its cool, thanks.