While most like to believe that sexual attraction comes from talking to a person and getting to know them, is this true? Can you really be interested in some one you are not physically aroused by? And what qualities bring this arousal?
Actually, I think most guys believe (and this is how I work personally) that sexual attraction comes from just seeing a woman. I don’t have to know them even slightly to be aroused by how a woman looks.
Yes, you can be ‘interested’ in a person you are not physically aroused by, but it just means you’re not planning on having sex with them. If you are aroused by somebody you’re not initially attracted to, then it’s because the person has recently displayed a trait that you are attracted to (like confidence, humor, strength).
Expensive perfume is pleasant and possibly worn occasionally by the kind of woman I’m attracted to. On the other hand cheap perfume, a little too much of it, and worn by the kind of woman who wears a little too much cheap perfume, stops me in my tracks and confuses me. It’s completely disorienting. Sexy is disorienting.
In fact, it’s kind of funny when I meet a new woman who I want to have sex with, it’s like all my words and sentences are forming around one eventual, realized goal: “Do you want to have sex with me?”