I’m in a difficult situation… and i was hoping some rational people here might provide me with some solutions
I’m considering going to the Faculty of Law here starting this year and also continuing my studies in philosophy. However i was also thinking of the Faculty for European Studies. Problem is i can only go to two of these and i don’t know which to pick.
Now also mind you that i’ve just become deeply in love and unfortunatly the feeling is not mutual so my rationality just flew out the window … just kidding, but still i’ve never wanted something so badly in my life .
I don’t know how much i’ll like Law, and i’m also not sure if i’m not just doing it to impress this girl.
Thats precisely the problem… i am hopeless and lonely… and i got social dysfunctions… and she is full of life and hyperactive :|; which is exactly why she doesn’t like me. lol
I was contemplating a head on aproach where i do my best in a face to face discussion and then if results are still negative… give up.
I never discuss such things with other people… but this is a serious puzzle for me.
Law is as interesting as philosophy and happily law uses philosphy. I think you might enjoy watching the two come together. Plus it will give you some interesting mind puzzles. Take law and Philosophy. It will take you further in life, better paying jobs and you can have fun with it to boot.
If you are doing it to impress her, you will not impress her. This is fundamental for you to understand. Walk your own path and develop yourself into the person you will become. There is something infinitely more attractive about a man who walks his own path. Give it time, you will attract the girl when you are more clear about what you want and about who you are.
I dislike it when men try to impress me in the way you described.
As LA said, follow your own path in life. In other words, find the path which will provide you with the greatest level in inner happiness.
If you follow your own path and she takes notice of you, then wonderful.
If she doesn’t, then it’s certainly possible someone even better will come along who appreciates your true personality and what makes you happy in life.
I can pat you on the back buddy, I know how you feel.
I was a sucker for a real pretty brown eyed girl awhile ago. The only thing between me and her was her boyfriend though. We could still flirt all the time, but of course I knew I couldn’t take it any further…
I was hurting for so long because I couldn’t get the girl out of my mind, that feeling of wanting something so badly was overtaking me when I tried to go to sleep every night.
It took time, but eventually I came to terms with the fact that I could never get to her because she was already taken…I was friends with the son of a bitch too.
So I guess my piece of advice to you Carp is, we want most what we can’t get to. You eithier take what you want if its available to you, or you just accept that you can’t ever have it, wash it out of your mind, and move on.
Mr Kebop: I suggest you study that subject and set the E.U straight…Europe has the potential to be a Great World Region (it is in many respects) so get to it and sort out all those stuffy old politicos.
Why will no one fall in love with me? Or I with them?
Cna they sense my madness straight away?
Do I trigger alarms bells because of my strange eyes?
wow… i’m in a very similar situation right now, actually, being in love with a friend of mine (i feel strange using that phrase, “in love”, since we’ve never gone out). however, we’re both going to college, and her school of choice happens to be about… oh… probably 500-600 miles away from mine. which really sucks.
i probably should’ve said something when i had the chance but it would seem that self-esteem has not smiled upon me, leaving little choice as to whether i would tell her how i felt. the awkwardness of the situation was only amplified by my being a very practical person by nature, when the practical thing to do was let her in on my secret, since she obviously knew anyway and liked me as well, from what i’ve heard.
moving right along…
the best advice i could give you carp, (even if i can’t follow it), would be to sit down and talk to her. however, do what you feel is best regarding your education, as in strictly monetary terms, a career path is more important than love.
wow… i appreciate all you posting… i never thought i’d get this many replys on a topic such as this.
Thx, i appreciate this post the most
I think you’re right
What can i say, law does seem interesting and i know philosophy will greatly improve my speach and language and help alot in what i’m about to do.
I also wish to start writing philosophy after i end my studies so i’m also interested in keeping alot of free time for myself.
As to what the girl is concerned… i always keep in mind a line from a novel i just wrote by Camil Petrescu, a romanian writer, who’s main character is a philosopher and he is facing two tragedies, love and the first world war.
In the end after he’s injured in battle and he cannot be sure if his wife cheated on him or not… he concludes that his worries were in vain because he could have “always found another just like her”.
However although i see his point at the moment i can’t really think like that.
Look, the reason I reckon you want to do something besides philosophy is the pecuniary aspect of earning a decent living. Everybody knows that philosophers, not unlike 2500 years ago, are seen as hopeless inapts. In that respect, you should also consider the aspects of what you’re going to pursue next. As far as I know, Law means a kazillion books that need meorising and a binding to one’s own homeland. I doubt you can practice Law in a country different from that in which you make your studies.
On the other hand, European Studies (I don’t know exactly what that means) sounds more perky, as if you’re one step away from Brussels or something.
Also, why Law ? I mean, the current state of affairs makes it tantalisingly difficult for a freshman to make a name for himself, plus that getting into the magistrature is literally a challenge if you don’t have connections. You also need to consider the utter antagonistic state in which you’re going to lie : on the one hand, you’re going to contemplate the platonic ideal of pure justice thingy while on the other you’ll have to bend laws in favour of guys shooting helpless men in the name of their holy right to private property. This sounds silly, but I’m trying to say that in my view, literally practising Law is a downer. It fetters your ideas of about everything to the infamous cross of monetary benefit.
Well i guess she’ll have more respect for me if i go to Law school … Philosophy is not very high held, especially by girls .
Now on your second question… i’ve asked my self the same question… do i want to be the one defending scums for a living ? And the answer i came up with is that you don’t always have to defend scums; As a law school graduate there are numerous jobs you can fill; probably more than after any other faculty.
Not to mention it pays extremly well.
Also mind you, i’m not interested in free time for writing philosophy during my university years, i’m only interested in that after i finish my studies and from what i’ve noticed lawyers get plenty of free time.
No, i don’t have connections and i’m aware that it’ll be very hard for me to hold my head above the water for so long but i do enjoy a good challenge.
There also a section within the faculty for European Law so i wont be restricted to practicing law only in my own country.
Then you aren’t ‘in love’. You may love this female, or at least love your impression of her, but if it isn’t mutual then you are not ‘in love’, if one is being grammatically and etymologically pedantic (i.e. the closest thing we can be to being rational)
That you see her as a ‘something’ to ‘want’ pretty much proves my point about you not being in love. Females are not there to be things to be wanted. They are there to participate with in loving.
This isn’t entirely true - some females certainly do like being viewed as a sort of sexual commodity, probably because it’s a relatively easy role to fulfill. But any woman worth loving has to be more than just a sexual commodity to you, and to herself. Otherwise it’s just a base animal fuckfest, a spreading of genes, a stick your dick in the hole (/sword in the rock/flag in the moon) conquest.
You are. Take philosophy.
Take philosophy. Forget the girl - you don’t respect her enough to deserve her.
Sometimes you are capable of the clearest elocutions possible in the English language.
Unfortunatly in vain… because that not even close to what my feelings are. Again SIATD you’ve started playing with words and manipulated them in such a way to make me look like a villan.
I think everyone here knows that by “wanting” i dont mean it as wating a material object; everyone exept you SIATD… or maybe not ? Maybe you just enjoy arguing against me even when i’m talking about myself and you don’t know anything about me.
You’re making this forum extremely unpleasent for me and i’m asking you to please stop.
so my rationality just flew out the window 
… just kidding, but still i’ve never wanted something so badly in my life 
