In life, when do you keep trying for something you want but fail to get?;
for how long do you keep trying?; and when do you finally just let it go
and call it a day?
If you keep trying and failing to get something you really want…how long
do you keep trying? How many times? WHen do you just let it go?
Is there fate and destiny in life such that you really neednt try for anything because if its meant to be it will happen anyway?
Anyway, this:
…is a most profound question, maam. It is the very dilemma that has stumpted determinsists and advocates of freewill for centuries, and, indeed, (i think people say “indeed” too much) for centuries to come.
What is volition and why bother if everything is determined?
Come, let us ponder this query.
Well theres trying and then there trying really really hard over and over again…I wanna know if you are supposed to try really hard over and over and over and over and over again…???
I dont think there anything wrong with continuing to try. Trying is good. We should try and try and try towards that goal. The important thing is to be aware when halfway through the path changes direction.
If you look at where you are in life now, look at what coincidental people, conversations, meetings, timings led you down the path to here and now. If I hadnt met him, I wouldnt have known about that, and done that...
The goal will always move; but trying and trying is definitely important - destiny or no.
Trying and failing and then trying and failing again is not against you, it is a point of change.
Sometimes all that is needed to succeed to your goal is to take a different path. There is always or at least the majority of times more than one way up a mountain. Make lists of how why, where, when. List obstacles in your way and how to overcome them, giving multiple options for each.
You are intelligent and imaginative, use that to help solve your problems. See things from different angles and ways. Don’t give up until you have exhausted all avenues. Nothing worth having is ever easy. You can do it, have faith in yourself and your abilities. =D> 
You have to use your powers of prediction.
Look at what you want and determine:
How many people like you have gotten what you want. For instance, you want a singing career, but can’t sing, and you live on top of a mountain and don’t have any friends. Prediction: it’s not going to happen.
Although you’ve been trying very hard have you: sought out other opinions to help you think out of the box, have you considered the direct approach of simply asking for what you want, are you doing the background work to make yourself compatable with your goal. For that last one, if you want a certain job did you get the training for it?
Once you step back and take an objective view of your situation, then you’ll be able to predict outcomes to a greater degree.
Finally, this approach may not work in human relationships. Sometimes people are simply too fickle.
Desire is destiny struggling to unfold. The desires that you have are your destiny in the phase of becoming.
Sometimes the only way to figure out what you want most of all is to try to get what you think you want and not quite get it.
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“Let go, and then let God.”
I’m sure you have tried this before. Say you are looking for something you misplaced for months or years and finally you remembered that you have that thing but can’t remember where you put it, so you ask yourself, “Where did I place it?”. Then you go about your other mundane task and as you are doing something, you remembered where you placed that thing.
Same as when you want to impress someone or want to be considered for a job. Go to the interview with the feeling and visualization that you will get the job. Then forget or don’t think about it anymore. If you don’t get the job, then that is also an answer. So try another one.
Just let go, and let nature take care of the rest. You have done your part. Let nature do its part.
Ah, my little devotchka, it is in times like these that we call upon our beloved brother Detrop to aid us with such snippets of involuntary wisdom: "Atheism exists because of religion. Take away religion, and there is no such thing as atheism. " One knows that it is the apple in the tree that kindles the most arduous desires for attainment, and that all our must and wants are strangely shifted towards the shiny fruits of the public show case.
One needn’t tussle for something to want it, just like not treading on the grass doesn’t make you likeable public-wise. When strong passions are in play, many a frustrations result. The only cure for this appetencial disease is to be found in the renouncing of all the fetters keeping you bound to it. One is prepared to let something go only when one has ceased to desire it.
It was Tristan’s quote, however I have said the same thing in other ways, only I am not clever enough to make the example with a vegetable.