Often we fall in love because we are attracted to a personality. When it begins to crumble and the real person becomes more visible our relationships collapse. What solution do you see for this dilemma?
In my experience that’s not the way I’ve seen it. People often fall in love because they’re in love with the idea of being in love. The “real person” had been there the whole time but the real person was secondary to the emotional high of the love.
However, there are couples that stay together. Perhaps over time one gets sick and is not themselves anymore or has a stroke and is really not themselves. Love continues. In this case it is love of the sick person’s being.
How could we describe the power that love possesses which makes a person want to stay on even in a worsening situation and what kind of satisfaction does it provide?
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People do indeed tend to fall in love with people because they are obsessed with being in love, its an emotion we all crave.
In answer to your dilema, i can only reccomend you don’t wear your heart in your sleeve, be on the defsensive when seeking a partner, get to know them well before you jump in with two feet, it will save all the unneed upset and drama.
Good luck!.
The question is, in this case: what kind of love are you talking about. It it Eros or Agape?
One is short-term and the other long-term. Some people are seeking a certain kind. I also suspect that one starts out seeking the first and as one matures desires the second.