eros is easily understood. but viewing someone (opposite sex)as only beautifull and not sexy is like personified art,it spawns respect not lust.
i want to know who on this forum has felt this about someone?
sure you can think of them as sexy too,but that is not the dominant theme in your mind.
hope i stated my question properly. this is a sex crazed world…
A guy gave me this example with Audrey Hepburn vs. Marilyn Monroe:
He said that when he looked at Audrey Hepburn he just wanted to stare at her because she was so beautiful but that he didn’t want to touch her, he just wanted to stare. Whereas with Marilyn Monroe he wanted to have sex with her.
i just googled Audrey Hepburn.these pictures are all in black and white.
in the colored picture,she is like 50 or somethin’.
i’m not sure about this as an example…
i have NO idea what year(s) was her prime.
Of course, a beautiful woman is the work of art through excellence; I can think of almost nothing more exquisite that I would want to behold. And you see, it is really an impenitence to think of sex -or any other mundane subject, for that matter- when contemplating the visage of a charming woman.
However, reducing the feminine side to a mere generator of aesthetical emotion closely borders misogynism, which is why I consider it gastly to judge a woman solely for her looks; except, maybe, when all that you have is a picture of her.
You have to google Audrey Hepburn? Have you been living under a rock?
Dont mind him, hes from Canada. Thats a heavy rock.
ms hepburn hasn’t put out a video lately…
-Imp
to answer the original question, i have. is there a follow up question or is that it?
This made me chuckle…
I find both men and women can be attractive. That has to do with the fact that I’ve met many pathetic wretches in my time. So, I’m happy to see fresh healthy looking people. I guess it’s sort of like what one feels toward their children.
If you have a great looking kid I assume that awe and happiness is experienced, rather than lust.
With women that I find attractive, I get this nice thrilling tickle around my heart, if I’m around them. This is not usually in conjunction with sexual thoughts as I consider such things to cause personal suffering. The dream will either be a lot of work to achieve, if at all, or an ethical violation if I’m in a relationship. In regard to the latter, I hate fantasizing about one woman while being with another.
So, I’ve gotten good at just appreciating a woman as a person that I’m having an encounter with. Ironically, women seem to love this ingenuous approach.
I look at a person as a whole. Not just physical appearance. I rarely deem someone beautiful, if I’m talking about physical looks. If someone is physically good looking, but not sexy, they are just that–good looking.
For someone to be beautiful to me, they have to have it all. Charisma, Intelligence, Looks (though not always a requirement).
I’ll stop with the potentially incoherent rambling. I just woke up.
stumbles off to the kitchen
Good morning LDG,
I think that both Colin and detrop are attractive, possibly very attractive, but I wouldn’t want to sleep with either of them. Mainly because they’re both male…
Personally I think that human beings are an absurd looking race, particularly compared to large cats, certain birds, whales, hedgehogs and so on. We just aren’t a pretty bunch. Whatismore cats (domestic cats, the littler ones) are both better looking than us and a whole lot more advanced. If you can name for me another animal which can stay in shape even if it overeats and sleeps for 16 hours a day and for the most part has its every wish fulfilled I’ll show you the intelligent designer…
chuckles Mornin’ SIATD.
Yeah, I agree with you there. Animals are way better at being beautiful. grins
Hello F(r)iends,
Drift… rent the movie “My Fair Lady”. Starring Audrey Hepburn. You will fall in love.
The movie is one of the best musicals ever… I saw this as a young man and I recall my conversations with people about the movie, please excuse the ghetto talk as I re-enact that conversation: Oh, fo’ showe, fo’ showe. Hepburn’s uh classy bee-yatch, the type thadid make a grrrr-eight baby momma. But Monroe, she a ho ya wanna know biblical style. I was young…
-Thirst4TheGhetto
SIATD, don’t be modest, I know you were kidding… umm… You were kidding, right ? You can’t possibly claim that a cat is nicer to look at than, let’s say, Audrey Hepburn… It’s unnatural.
We normally associate beauty with harmony of colour and form, but it is the way that it pierces our sensibility that manages to knock us off our feet. Aesthetical pleasure is a feeling that requires the participation of both the object and the subject.
I’ve never been able to understand harmony in nature the same way as beauty in a human being. A woman’s visage is art for the sake of art, while a cat’s face is shaped under the auspice of sole utility*.
*[size=75]weak argument, I realise, but I’m on to something…[/size]
absolutly. and anxst,it’s not a canadian thing.it’s me. i hate the media,so thats in a different thread.
all of you can tell me bout’ the usefull stuff of media/movies/music/etc, and i’ll never have to go anywhere,do anything or watch damn commercials or pay a cent. 
See the thread in philosophy on Orwell, “Art and Propaganda are the same thing” - this applies to the semiotics of women putting their slap on just as it applies to critical discussion of Waiting for Godot…
well…there is definitely a difference between just looking at a girl as beautiful and just wanting to have sex with a girl.
alotta times those two feelings can go together, sometimes they dont.
like chicks in playboy magazine i dont find to be beautiful, just very fuckable.
now there are some girls that i know that i find to be very beautiful, in a very deep way, and i want to slowly make love to them. 
and there are other girls that i am freinds with that i find to be very beautiful in many different ways, yet im not at all sexually attracted to them.
This is utterly pathetic. I find myself once again agreeing with saitd.
You say “natural beauty”, I say show me a snow leopard, a bengal tiger, a Peregrine falcon or a Thompson’s redtail.
I find my own appearance notably repugnant, so it makes it easier to appreciate the beauty of nature.
Most female humans I have encountered, are too complex to just outright apply a loutish term like “beauty” to them. It requires more information, in my opinion, to assess beauty. (i.e. a Thailandese female I temporarily dated was an example of physically perfection, visually, but she was pure evil in her personality … her attractiveness quickly diminished.)
Admittedly, as a male, I don’t find separating physical beauty from sexuality particularly easy. My jewels tend to have something to say about an attractive female, and they communicate quite clearly.
Put simply yes.
I have told that person many times, although I do find them sexually attractive as well, but I can separate the two. However, that person doesn’t seem to believe me. Which I must say is an endearing quality.