i was at a house with my freinds last night, i was sitting next to a girl. the peoples whos house it was (that i dont realy know) had to dance outragiously, for me and the girl to even look and make eye contact with them. not having peoples eyes on you, and to not be able to look at someone elses eyes is bad. its de humanizing. the people that can casually dance anywhere are the people who have overcome the fear of others watching them. my freind then said “pssst galacticHeart, minimilism is one key of life”.
to which i replied; “also, dont take yourself seriously, and dont pretend like you know anything concrete, but its very possible that 1. there is thoughtfull design, as well as thoughtfull destiny, to some degree, anyhow.”
Would ye have been born if thi perents were afraid of eachother?
Would you not be afraid of you were hurt by others?
Know your freind, know your enemy,
never hide your weakness from yourself, because you are not evil.
Never show your weakness to evil people.
Remember that the mind was meant to protect the physical.
Dont over-estimate how much strangers can hurt you.
Surely, some have tricked us into thinking we are inferior,
and then we fear judgement from others,
because they may infact dislike or hate part of us,
but in realizing that each part of the body belongs there and only does what it can for the whole,
you and the other should not hate or judge it.
I would surely estimate, that the source of the fear of others,
is the fear they also posess, as they try to fight-or-flight their way passed being un-loved by the swell of modern fools found here and there in society.
Though people above us wish to control us,
truely, do not forget your individuality.
Here and now, completely except and love yourself,
and rebel against anyone who has ever hated or judged you in your life!
More often than not, people are not good to each other one on one…
Humans, on the whole, have not been the best at relating to each other throughout History…perhaps it is because so much is filling up our tiny minds with anxiety, fear, confusion and haterd!!
People find it hard to relate to strangers…to relate to Others…people can only stand sooo much of Other People…
The heart is got to open in a fundamental way - Leonard Cohen
sadly, distrust is needed, we need to sort our friends from our enemies…
Many students describe prolonged eye contact as “You mad doggin me.” That is, in some ethnic groups this is viewed as a challenge, in other cultures it is just plain inpolite.
Monkeys respond in much the same way.
I have noticed a similar thing sometimes. Maybe it has something more primal as its motivation. Many animals do not look either something more powerful or something of higher standing in the social order directly in the eyes. Unless it is seeking confrontation.
Maybe humans do something similar. Maybe we dodge eye contact to avoid confrontation, stress, or to seem meek or humble to another person. Now, both with animals and humans this can be used as a ruse. You can play meek and humble to lull your target into a feeling of security then attack. But, who knows for sure why people do it? Just some ideas.
Being able to look someone in the eyes when you speak to them gives you an unassailable authority over them, even though you and that someone are only half-conscious about it.
I’ve noticed that I have no problem looking straight into some people’s eyes, while others I try to avoid. My friends, whom I feel comfortable with are among the ones who I can look at straightforward, and also random people on the street who I pass by. I have no redundancy in intersecting the glance of an occasional pedestrian; I actually do it quite often because it gives me a kind of a “napoleonic” feeling.
But, I admit it is hard for me to maintain a straight glare with someone who I have just met, or I am not in best terms with, or have had no close intimacy with.
This happens naturally, I guess, and most of the times I am only half-conscious of it.
I reckon it is all just a problem of self-assurance and confidence - the fear of being judged. Among friends and complete strangers equally, you (or, in any case, me) have no apprehension of being labeled or misunderstood. Friends have a closer image of you and will judge you by wider criteria, thus you must struggle only to be yourself, while to strangers who have no notion about you, you are likewise indifferent about the image created, because you know that feedback is impossilble.
But its those who are between these extremes, ay, there’s the rub ! Most of our social life is composed of these people, whom we are just acquainted with, and theirs is the hell of masks and personnas.
Other people are those who we have to give account to, and the ones who maintain our daily facade they are the ones who we try to hide our faults from. We are redundant to honesty, we choose to hide our true self, and that is why we do not look people in the eyes - we do not see ourselves in them.
i dont want control over anyone that is good. i will know my freinds , through short locked eye aknowledgements , blured glances, and prolific sillouettes. im will stare evil in the eyes, because their is so little behind it, and nothing worth respecting. …good, because i was starting to think i was a pansy.
SCARY OPEN DIRECT STARE.
i have an overwhelming need to look people in the eye. my motivation is not to provoke or cause fear (not necessarily) i like the contact, the momentary glances, the netural unspoken ‘hello’ between eyes…that leave us all thinking…y’know, as we pass by all strangers in the street.
Eye’s are windows into the soul…on contrary…they are eye-soul! Ha Ha