When people argue, it seems that at the end there will be fighting.
When kids argue and talk back to their parents, and don’t submit, it seems they are morally wrong.
Why.
Parents don’t want to deal with listening to their kids arguing so they tell them not to. Perhaps like sex, drinking and smoking, they feel that’s an adult pursuit.
I disagree! You, sir, have insulted my honor! I demand satisfaction! slap
Jesus said," When a person hits you on the right cheek, offer him the other cheek"
well…the reason two individuals would argue is because they do not agree with each other. In a child to parent situation, a parent is clearly more experienced, and intelligent (arguable), thus he has more leverage in an argument.
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there is a need for the respect of people in authority.
Same hidden law for men to respect and honour woman, the parent has a special role.
Isn’t that like the expression “respect your elders.” Same thing as don’t talk back to your parents really.
Adults know better. Children need to learn, so children need to listen and not argue or talk back to adults.
The parents role is to provide discipline to their children. When children talk back or argue they are not accepting that discipline, and may not learn the lesson they need to.
But if two adults argue then that is different because it is two experienced people who understand (hopefully) life’s lessons or have learned discipline already.
But not all adults “know better” in every situation, so there can be arguments.
Then is being a child better or an adult?
Do as I say, not as I do…
I believe that’s the first rule of parenting in the West.
-Thirst
Do as I say not as I do is a completely different concept.
No one brings home a puppy expecting that puppy to be housebroken and trained. The puppy needs to learn the rules expected of it (or be disciplined). Children need to learn the same thing.
Most adults don’t need to learn these things because adults are mature and responsible.
Children are not expected to work for a living because they are still learning about responsibility, still learning about life. Children have no responsibilities and therefore should also have no authority.
Why should a child who is being taken care of (having his needs met by someone else) get to question adults who may be the ones who are meeting that child’s needs?
Well… since argument’s usually end up in aggravated fighting, no parent wants to slap their kid to hush them up.
Plus they are most annoying. Show me a two year kid who knows how to structure a decent argument without crying and screaming. You would have found a prodigy.