When I meet someone or fall into any situation, instead of keeping the morals or knowledge that I gain from that situation or person, I only gather what I see. In other words, I’m trying to swallow the people and their perspectives rather than what I should be simply Learning from everything I come to pass in life with a seemingly idiotic smile pasted to my face all along. You can keep knowledge forever, but you can’t keep people. And memories fade. Pain kills. Happiness lives on.
Knowing this, why the hell am I still attached?
Irish prayer: May god give you… For every storm, a rainbow, For every tear, a smile, For every care, a promise, And a blessing for each trial, For every problem life sends, A faithful friend to share, For every sigh, a sweet song, And a answer For each prayer.
Because you are human, theres alot more to attachment to a person than just what you learn from them. Emotions cannot be categorised as an electrical impulse developed as a survival tool, the unexplainable attachment you mention is one of the reasons that the metaphyical should nto be casualy ignored
This is very true. People, like friends, boyfriend/girlfriends, and sometimes even family come and go. Memory is fallible, so we will forget most of the detail in these experiences, but the lessons learned, the knowledge gained will not be discarded.
For example, my girlfriend and I broke up two weeks ago. Over the time of our relationship I learned a lot from her. However, if I were to only pick out the morals/knowledge that I gained, I would inevitably lose appreciation for wisdom. We, as humans, need to feel affection from others, and it feels good when we receive this feeling. That’s when we try to replicate this feeling as often as we can in order to feel some type of euphoria. In other words, when someone or something makes us feel good we tend to cling on to it. But, what is important is finding out who is worth clinging to.
Not related to the topic, but to what you said about “Happiness lives on”, sometimes I have debates with myself whether happiness is truly forever, I mean, everytime I recollect thoughts of happiness in the past it has only been temporary, just like anger, depression, and all other emotions. Maybe we just have an addiction to pursue happiness.
I have been reading a lot lately. Mostly about Zen and the ways in which Buddhism works. It all revolves around peace and tranquility.
You are correct in saying we must find the right one to cling onto, but do you not think he/she do the same with Us? You should never worry enough to TRY to be their one. It should be naturally born between each person. If it is not, it will fade with time. Just as everything does. Nothing lasts forever. Except Truth.
Truth does not consist of simply people, but also our own Will. If we choose to WANT and RECEIVE appreciation, praise, and materialistic gains such as these from ordinary people, you will surely RECEIVE these things. If you do not care for them, but simply receive whatever comes and passes, such as the waves of the oceans that constantly flow in and out, you will be most Happy. For you will not constantly be feeling as if you are missing something. For it will always be right in front of your eyes. Because you will find pleasure moment to moment.
You are completely correct in saying that we each contain some sort of Addiction or Want in pursuing Happiness. Because Happiness is the ultimate to itself.
What do we really want?
Do we really Want that one car. Or that one house? Or that one spouse?
No.
We simply are looking for Happiness. And so do you not think it would be easier to find it directly in itself, rather than search for it for years until it comes to stand right beside you.
And that is simply temporary Happiness. The Happiness that comes from within you stays Forever… And this will only attract things into your life. For it cannot take anything away from you. Because you will begin to find pleasure in everything you come to pass.
One should always be in a constant state of peace.
Just as the clouds pass over the mountains and valleys. They are neither elated nor drawn down. They are constantly at one level. Peaceful. And above all Materialistic Want and Attraction itself. They do not desire for Anything. And that is how they come to gain Everything.
Anger, on the other hand, should last as long as a ripple on the surface of water. It should fade as quick as it comes. For it will do you no good.
The more you are positive and happy, whatever happens, the more people will be drawn to your optimistic energy.
We feel it is necessary to adjust to a person’s negativity in order to understand and get along with them. But I have found through my own experience that I loved the one person most who has not mellowed in my sadness, but rather constantly been optimistic around me.
He was the one who I unconsciously went to make me happy whenever I was upset. For he was at a constant peaceful state of mind.
He was no alien. He was a human being. But he was simply above attachment and pain.
We are human, and so we experience our ups and downs. But we can become just as clouds. We must let our feeling pass through us, but they are ours. We are NOT theirs. Feelings belong to us, and so we should be above them. We should not let them take over our very being. For, if we do so, we will never reach Happiness.
Happiness only comes if we decide to find it.
And it can be found in Everything.
idiotic smile as opposed to bliss. Thought creates saddness or happiness. Thought determines that “I” like this or “I” don’t like that. Can one illiminate thought? There is a bliss devoid of attachments, aversions, and other graspings of the mind.