why do you have friends? do you have them to use them when you need to? and then do they use you back when they need to? Arent people just annoying drama? And wouldnt you rather have more “me” time alone?
And why do you have a car? isnt it expensive to put gas in and pay for insurance and stuff?
Like…why?
1056 posts and I’ve never seen you before until now. Is English your first language? Why am I getting a Eastern European vibe?
More than likely a sock puppet of an already established member.
A friend, like love, isn’t something that you choose, but rather something that chooses you.
I have friend because people like me and wont go away. I fight for time to myself, and I think I get enough of it.
I have a car because I like to drive places. I could ride the bus I suppose, or take taxis, or whatever…but no. Expensive is a relative term. There are too many factors to consider to just make a blanket statement about having a car being expensive or not expensive. It’s not free…that’s for sure, but I think most people who want one could get one if they decided they wanted one badly enough.
oh ok i get it now
I’m not sure. Could you explain it back to me in your own words?
people have friends because they are awesome and people love them and everyone likes being loved. well that OR they are rich or gorgeous or popular and they collect friends that way and enjoy the admiration…but if you dont have friends its probably because people dont like you for whatever reason.
owning a car costs money but its worth it.
Some people don’t want friends, because they don’t like the lies and pettiness that comes with friendship. Friendship is a form of neediness and social codependency. Who wants to be around needy, dependent people? They’re kind of like leeches. If you’re a strongly independent person, very proud, then you never want help from anybody. So you don’t need friends. And if nobody can keep a simple conversation with you, then the desire for friendship or companionship goes down even further. How can you be friends with people you share nothing in common, and bore you to death by talking or conveying their ideas? You can’t, unless you lie, and pretend that you’re a friend when you’re not.
And people price cars really low or high. You could get a nice car and lots of gas for cheap, with a good deal. So a good deal is worth it. But a car is mostly a means to travel. If you need to travel long distances, or fast between distances, time is important, then a car is very useful or necessary. If you walk twenty kilometers everyday, then you’ll probably want to get a car instead of walking all the time. Cars are very practical.
Anymore questions?
I don’t like being loved. It’s just something that I have to deal with.
well im sure you love being loved by certain people, like if Kate Upton loved you, you would love it.
Yes exactly. I am constantly faking it when I am in fact so BORED…and then at some point they somehow realize I am so bored and then they hate me and think im evil. Or vice versa. Maybe they are bored by me …so to find someone I am genuinely interested in and who is also genuinely interested in me…is very very very very rare.
Here’s a little exercise I do from time to to time. Make a list, mental or otherwise, of all the things you’d like in an ideal friend. Now look at that list and ask yourself if you are all of those things. That has a way of putting your standards into perspective.
It’s very difficult to find people today, even with all the immediate global connections, with the same interests and focuses. I’ve not yet found a single person and I’ve been searching for years and years. I’ve not yet found somebody who really thinks in a similar way as I do, or about similar topics. On a few rare occasions, I’ve met some above average intellectual types. But I usually lose interest in them after a few meetings. I’ve been on the internet for a long time, looking for a more meaningful connection. But I’m just going to give up on it. It’s an impossibility. I seriously doubt I’ll meet anybody like me in my lifetime.
Sometimes you just need to accept your condition and your inheritance. Most people can relate, because most people are average, rather dull and boring. They don’t really think much, especially not about deeper, philosophical ideas. People generally stop at certain points. They get a little bit of confidence, like interest in watching football, or having some republican or democratic opinions. People like to participate, just a little bit, in religion, in schools, in sports. People generally congregate with likeminded people, with likeminded activities. But some people never truly fit in anywhere, and that must be accepted.
Some people just have no place in society, are unwanted, and that’s the way it is. That’s life. I’m only interested in true uniqueness, true beauty, true difference, rare individuals, new things, new ideas, powerful opinions, people who are absolutely faithful to their ideologies. Rarity is by definition difficult to find.
If you have lots and lots of friends, then your standards are just very low. It’s easy to have friends, if you let people piss on you. And they will. But if you don’t want to piss on other people, and don’t want to be pissed on yourself, then you’ll probably never have a true friend in life. You’ll always be alone. You’ll never connect with anybody, not even your own family. Sometimes you just let go of all other people, and simply stop caring about the joy and suffering of others.
Apathy
Yeah…but maybe some people don’t get pissed on. Maybe those are the gorgeous/rich/powerful/fabulous personality people. Maybe that’s also why they maintain so many “friends”. So still, maybe its me…maybe even if I was just much, much nicer of a person, maybe then I’d have more friends.
I’m an American. I don’t know who Kate Upton is.
Never had a car, never felt I needed one.
You have friends because unless you are profoundly autistic or socially abnormal you enjoy the company of other people, what it is exactly you enjoy is of course subjective. I will say this though I can do without a car, but friends I think are essential.
I am English I have no idea who she is either; I assume some nation will know her by default. 
Philosophy girl isn’t one.
Google Kate Upton and draw your own conclusions.
Any relation to Upton? At any rate friends come in handy when feeling alienated, but here again alienation may be a good thing as colin wilson long ago has pointed out. Funny thing thoiugh , when asked what he thought of Khrishnamurti, he replied that he hasn’t read him$
Khrishnamurti also had positive things to say about alienation.
it happens. If good, it happens more. The spending time, the liking, the labelling ‘friend’.
I’m not sure. I’m not sure what this means. I need to use them, I guess, when I need to use them. Whether I have to when I need to is less tautological.
I have no idea. Need, want.
Not for me. I mean, that would be rather sad if they were only that for someone. Hopefull they will try other people and then more other people, just to see if it’s a rule.
I Think I have sufficient, thank you.
I don’t have a car. I find they are just annoying drama.
hi,
im drunk. im watching the movie bridesmaids. it is awesome. its like i am that woman…
anyhoo…my ex, im still in love with him. he still talks to me. he says he doesnt want to put a label on us and he wants to just see where things go. Is he stringing me along? How do you know when a guy is hopeless
Smooches.