Is there any name for that? People who’re always bound to ask “why me?”, “why now?”, “I don’t deserve it” and such?
I think there’s a little bit of Narcissism over there but there must be a name for that “why me?” bit, isn’t it?
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I don’t know. Pessimists? Pessimists always think the universe is conspiring against them and so they’re always asking ‘why me.’ Optimists, on the other hand, always think the universe is conspiring to help them, and so it wouldn’t occur to an optimist to ask that question.
Why me? is just a whine. Although anyone who has raised children has been know to slip from time to time… Right Jerry? 
I’ve ask myself that question once or twice. I know we’re supposed to pay for our sins, but I stoutly maintain that I did not sin that much. 
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Maybe it’s a life stage kind of thing.
Piaget argued that not everybody reaches his formal operations stage, the stage after concrete operations. In this fourth and final stage, individuals have the ability to think more abstractly about things; things aren’t “black and white” and concrete.
A person who consistently wonders why bad things happens to them may be unable to realize that bad things happen to everybody. They may also just lack insight into a recurring problem and be clueless as to the nature of its cause. Maybe they just pay more attention to bad things as they occur while taking the good for granted.
Did you have any specific examples in mind?
Come on guys think. Does depression ring a bell?
Well…depression really doesn’t fit the bill, does it?
A lot of people who are depressed aren’t asking “why me?” but (and, we’re assuming this is clinical depression here, in some form or another) are instead asking “Why bother…”
I believe “narcissistic pessimism” would probably term it best, drawing from the first set of answers.
No not all people who are depressed are asking these questions, but all who are asking the questions are depressed, if only slightly.
Maybe they should chill and learn to ask “why not me?”
Or do they think they’re entitled to better treatment than the rest of us?
I mean, 4 years ago I was fresh out of jail after a three-month vigilante rap, homeless, jobless, near-penniless and living in a tent in a wood, but did I lapse into self-pity? - Nah I was too busy laughing at myself the whole time, “Bleddy marvellous” I thought, “I’ve ended up as Bigfoot”…
Before that as I was led away to prison in handcuffs I said to my solicitor -“Its okay, I had nothing planned for the next 3 months anyway”
And in prison as I fed breadcrumbs to the pigeons on my cell windowsill I thought “I’ve ended up as the Birdman of Alcatraz”…
As a christian, I can never take life seriously thank God 
“For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power…” (2 Tim 1:7)
“What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes” (James 4:14)
They derserve ‘good’ treatment, as we all do.
Right, and the christian God agrees with you 
“[God] raises the poor from the dust, and lifts the beggar from the dunghill, to set them among princes and let them inherit the throne of glory” (1 Sam 2:8 KJV )
If I happen to meet god I will not be in such a good mood as to give him the same good treatment.
The problem is thinking that the world owes us something. It owes us nothing. Narcissism is obviously the problem. When we place our egos above everything else in the world you are bound to be dissapointed.
The world is a harsh, brutal, hell of a place. Once one understands that there are no certainties in life and that we could be struck down by a truck, be beat up, catch cancer, etc. at any moment, a stoic like acceptance comes over oneself.
A name for it: What’s a word for being recalcitrant and narcissistic at the same time?
ROLLING WITH THE PUNCHES by Mick
Christians take knocks like everybody else but they know how to roll with the punches life throws at them…
Right Rocky?
"Yo, I just wanna prove somethin’ – I ain’t no bum… It don’t matter if I lose… Don’t matter if he opens my head…The only thing I wanna do is go the distance – That’s all…Nobody’s ever gone fifteen rounds with Creed. If I go them fifteen rounds, an’ that bell rings an’ I’m still standin’, I’m gonna know then I weren’t just another bum from the neighborhood…
I know for a fact that some times it feels good to think that im special enough to warrant this all new form of punishment…
I labelled it as self-victimisation when I mentioned it in my second book (it’s not about psychology anyway). Now that I think about it, I think “why me?” may reflect several profound features, such as:
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Thinking one could be in anybody else’s shoes, since anybody else’s problem may seem simpler when looked from the outside (and that’s why most people think they’re entitled to judge what everybody should or shouldn’t do).
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Feeling nobody else could deal with one’s own problems, since they’re (apparently) harder.
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Fearing one won’t be able to cope with such problems, thus wishing they were another person’s (“can’t anyone else do it?”).
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Expecting awards from our good behaviour in the past, and not seeing it coming (“the love you take is equal to the love you make”).
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Simple, plain and straight jealousy towards someone else.
It’s a delicate matter all in all. Sometimes it seems that “why me?” individuals are rather conceited, but sometimes those patterns appear to match a very low self-esteem.
I cannot hear the why me question without remembering those old beach blanket movies from the 1960s when Harvey Lembeck as leader of the Rats motorcycle gang goes riding over a cliff and all you hear is, “Why me”. He was not depressed, just thwarted. I think its a normal reaction to thwarted desires and does not necessarily indicate depression.