(…) writes:
With my crazy, hectic life I find myself getting up in the middle of
the night…on the verge of an anxiety attack…worrying about
anything and everything…when that happens, I start praying…let
go and let God…"Lord, I am turning my fears, my worries, my
problems over to you.
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V:
If I live life in a crazy, hectic and sick way, that is what I get … craziness and sickness. I also get the added bonus of destroying my life through my addictions…all eight of them!
We all answer to natural law and just praying to God to get a hall pass to relieve us from paying the price of sick living due to our own actions will not give us peace. Yes, it can distract us from life, as all mind concentrations do and as I wrote about in “Paying Homage to Charles Ponzi.” But just paying ‘lip service’ to right living is only a band-aid approach on a cancer that keeps growing.
Change is internal. It seems that many of us get stuck with looking for hope of change someplace else other than within us. All change is ultimately internal in nature, but we have hopes that someone else will do it for us, rather than we doing it ourselves. Even many religious practitioners feel that any good change in their lives will come from the outside – as a gift from God / gods without much effort from ones own self to change.
Now, some people talk of enlightenment or miracles happening, but even these areas of great change still must be ultimately rooted inside the person, as no one can beat them over the head with them and force the change upon the individual. One thing to be mindful of is that once we do change life will still not be perfect. As the old Buddhist saying goes: Before enlightenment you chop wood and carry water ~ After enlightenment you chop wood and carry water. So, develop all the positive changes you can in your life, but be sure to look at such changes in proportion and not as some magic bullet to nirvana. True happiness and serenity is composed of many qualities and not just one. I discuss this in an earlier post called “The Definition of a Miracle is the Suspension of Natural Law”
I was on a forum for atheists where they claimed that atheists answer to no Gods or gods. I can positively say that every atheist serves two Gods. And in reality, these Gods require worship from all humans whether they be atheists or theists. The ‘God of Inner Peace’ is the first God. Without serving this God of Inner Peace man will turn to self destruction and suicide. The other God is that of the ‘God of Nature’ which makes itself evident with it natural laws or commandments. No matter how defiant the atheist or theist is…we will ALL bow to the God of Nature sooner or later.
Speaking of nature, it is also good to keep in touch with the lesser cousin of the God of Nature which is seeking peace with our own nature through right actions. Yes, learning to accept the nature of all things is an important part of the equation for living a life at peace, but there is a missing link that needs to be added to this equation. The missing link is marrying authenticity with rightness.
The formula for success is: Authentic Nature + Right Actions = Peace
The formula for failure is: Authentic Nature + Wrong Actions = Destruction
There are many ‘natures’ in our life to be mindful of - we have our own nature, the nature other persons we have contact with, as well as the ‘nature’ of nature itself. But, just becoming a ‘blissninny’ and blindly accepting the various natures will not give us peace. To apply this tool rightly, we need to adopt a life of proportionality, balance and wisdom. How do we learn to live a more balanced life? By using rational thought patterns and by putting reason before passion. Then we can view our actions as balanced or not, for without rational thought we have nothing to weigh in our quest for balance.
Knowing what is true and developing wisdom to be at peace are two very important qualities for the confused spiritual practitioner to develop. With respect to myself, I try to balance wisdom with that of peace perception. For whether something is a truth or not, it still has to pass the peace test. There are many things that are true and good in life, but they will still end up destroying my peace if I let them. Usually the dividing line for such ‘good today ~ bad tomorrow’ questions are rooted in the area of balance and proportionality.
If you don’t know what I am talking about, then I will give you this example. we need water to drink and air to breath in order to live. But, even though water and air are life sustaining, too much water and too much air will become life destroying…proportionality and balance divides life from death. I always ask if a person, place, thing or activity promotes my peace or destroys my peace? When I practice compassion for others as my Buddhist practice recommends, I ask this same question of peace promotion or peace destruction of others. I look deeply to see what is destroying the other persons peace the best I am able to.
There are 3 main components to rational thinking.
1 - Rationality requires reflection.
2- Rationality is the ability to anticipate consequences.
3 - Rationality requires adherence to certain standards.
Whatever the area of mind abuse - a sick mind that is constantly busy cannot heal itself without rest. Nor can that mind think rationally when it is sick. Meditation on nothingness (zazen) helps quiet a “sticky brain” that seems to hold onto everything. I can get positive results with just 15 to 20 minutes a day sitting meditation time. It helps if I sit at regular time. I meditate on nothingness, although some meditate on an object If you can get to a half hour meditation time, that is great. Do not confuse zazen with sleep. Having a brain awake and empty if far different from a brain asleep and still producing thoughts and dreams. It just takes time and practice. Morning works better for me than mid day…there are less things distracting me earlier in the day usually.
The important point is to just do it and do it regularly and do not make demands on your meditation practice or have expectations. Balance is very important in life. We need some spiritual practice and some physical as well. We sometimes forget we are spiritual beings residing in physical bodies living in physical world and need effort in both areas.
There are many other ways to use meditation besides traditional sitting meditation. There is also working mediation and walking mediation practices. If you do yoga, you can try combining meditation with your Yoga practice. Mindfulness meditation all starts with being aware of ones breath. I also make use of meditation tools such as a meditation timer. One type is a $10 CD that sounds a gong after a preset time. The other one is an expensive $100 electric gong timer that can also be used as an alarm clock or Yoga timer.
Sometimes I might use the 15 minute preset time just to get into a state conducive to meditation and when the gong goes off keep sitting until I feel like getting up naturally. These are usually the best sessions for me, although they require a person to have some freedom of time. Seldom can I sit for longer than 30 to 35 minutes at a session due to time and my ability. But, don’t get caught up in ego and try to mediate ad infinitum thinking the longer the better. One out of balance practitioner I knew bragged how he could meditate the main away from his rotting teeth with long hours of meditation. In his case too much sitting and too little oral hygiene – stay balanced.
Any sort of timer is fine except one that jars you out of meditation in an abusive and agitating manner. A timer frees one’s mind from worrying about such things. This should also apply to our alarm clocks in the morning. I use a CD clock that plays birds singing. Start your day off in peace. If you need further advice, there are many good books, videos or tapes on meditating from your local library that can help. Also many internet resources.
mro.org/zmm/teachings/meditation.php
When sickness comes from within me from my desires and attachments I have to look for a different path to healthy living than just piling on more sickness. We seldom question if more of a “good thing” is desirable for our supposed happiness in life. The question, that Voluntary Simplicity helps answer, is the question of what IS enough so we may be happy right now in the present. A life of Voluntary Simplicity focuses our attention on the fact that “everything we own take a little piece ~ peace of us.” And in doing so, we can let go of peace and life destroying rituals and possessions and replace them with a contented, satisfied and complete life in the present moment instead of a life that revolves around the next thing to be acquired in hopes of satisfying our insatiable appetites.
Greed is never satisfied by attainment - it is only satisfied by contentment. This orientation of conscious thought to simplify ones life in whatever activity the individual is engaged in is the foundation of success when it comes to simple living…mindfulness of our direction in life. Voluntary Simplicity is the tool I use to counter this desire to constantly expand my life with more complexities, stress and problems and to live within my comfortable boundaries for a serene life. I started with 12 step programs in 1974 to work on various addictions. As such, I find a less complex life very useful to my addictions recovery work. The 12 Step programs do actually touch on the VS topic, although it is not specifically called VS. Here are a couple of quotes that can be taken as their efforts at applying VS to one’s life.
…From page 76 of the 12 & 12 of Alcoholics Anonymous…
“The chief activator of our defects has been a self-centered fear-primarily that we would lose something we already possessed or would fail to get something we demanded. Living upon a basis of unsatisfied demands, we were in a state of continual disturbance and frustrations. Therefore, no peace was to be had unless we could find a means of reducing these demands.”
End of Quote
I cannot tell you that I have no unsatisfied demands in my life; but, I will say that since joining the simple living movent my unsatisfied demands can now be counted on one hand, whereas in my prior life, I needed a notebook to record them all.
…Taken from pages 122-125 of the 12 & 12 of Alcoholics Anonymous…
“In later life he (the addict) finds that real happiness is not to be found in just trying to be a number one man, or even a first-rater in the heartbreaking struggle for money, romance, or self-importance. He learns that he can be content as long as he plays well whatever cards life deal him. He’s still ambitious, but not absurdly so, because he can now see and accept actual reality. He is willing to stay right size.”
End of quote.
I find VS to be a very important state of mind to be in. It shows which direction a person is pointed in with their life. The same way an addiction has 3 roads to go down, so it goes with VS. An addict can be expanding their addiction, freezing their addiction or reducing their addiction. A person suffering from an overly stressed or complicated life can be expanding the complications, freezing the complications or reducing the complications. Thoreau says that we need food, shelter, fuel and clothes as necessities. In modern times, I will add transportation to the list depending on your local. Everything else is pretty much optional. If we have these needs met and are not happy, then their is no end to our supposed needs for that elusive state of happiness that we seek. We all seem to have no shortage of supposed needs or wants as complexity addicts. We only want to go in one direction…more.
Life does not go in one direction no matter how wealthy you are, life is always up and down. My goal in life prior to joining the VS movement was to get rich and buy anything I wanted to. My goal now is to live within my means, comfortably fit within my space and gratefully accept my current position in life. VS has contributed to this recovery and continues to do so each day. I make it a practice to wake up with VS, eat lunch with VS and to go to bed with VS the same way I do with my 12 step program work and without this constant awareness of how daily decisions affect my VS or 12 Step program, I’d be back on the road to my prior sick life.
Do not confuse VS with the misnomer of ‘Voluntary Poverty’ VS is not about living low, it is about making choices and balanced living. You get out what you put in with VS. If you do not cut back enough on the complexities that rob you of living life, then all you have is your same complex life back that you started with. If you cut out too many complexities and are unhappy or bored, don’t worry, you can always add them back. We suffer from no shortage of stress and complexities of living, especially if you have a family. Life gives us plenty of problems for free. You can even trade the complexities that offer no reward other than more problems for new complexities that offer rich rewards or good feelings.
For instance, I gave up some of my computer compulsion time and put that time into yoga class and meditation. I started with VS in 1996 by canceling some subscriptions to 5 business newspapers and magazines and pulled out about 50-60 rosebushes that we could not care for. After that, I saw the beneficial results and kept at it, questioning everything and experimenting with which complexities could be removed and which needed to stay in order to live a balanced life. We make what we want of VS, there are no rules other than if you do not do enough you do not get any results. There are no VS police to boss you around and tell you what is right or wrong. We have to decide this for ourselves as individuals. As I have said before, the program is the final judge of your success, not you, not me, not anyone else.
A lady wrote in asking if she could be into VS and still have a gold chain? Yes, we can have a gold chain, we can even have 10 gold chains if we please. Can a person have 100 gold chains and still be into VS? No, I could not say with a straight face I was into VS and own 100 gold chains. But, the person that has scaled back from owning 1000 gold chains could definitely say they have applied VS to their lifestyle by cutting back from 1000 to 100 gold chains. It is all relative and all up to us and what we wish to derive from our efforts at simplicity. Another fellow posted how he wanted a canoe, but his wife said he could not have one and be a VS devotee.
It is not up to others to tell us what we can have - our recovery or VS program will tell us. If the canoe would comfortably fit within a financial budget, and a person has the comfortable space required to store it and the object does not cause a person any undue harm or problems such as maintenance that they cannot upkeep, legal problems or rob them of time they cannot afford to give, I see no problem in having it. A person wrote me and asked, "Is writing your long 5 page post really simple living? " My response was, “Yes, writing 5 pages or even 5000 pages is vastly superior to living the old, sick life that I used to live.” Critics are all around us and work to tear down programs instead of building them up. Either our efforts at simplicity or recovery will promote our peace or destroy our peace - so put peace first. Always listen to your recovery program instead of the critics - it has the final say.
Below are some definitions of VS from the book The Circle of Simplicity ~ Andrews.
“For me, voluntary simplicity is living consciously, trying to eliminate the unnecessary, the superficial clutter. It is trying to live morally and ethically in the global economy by using less.”
“I think that voluntary simplicity as living on purpose, making sure I have the time to do the things I want to do, not wishing my time away.”
“I think voluntary simplicity is being true to yourself, true to the environment. It’s finding that place for every facet of my life and defining how much is enough. For me it is spiritual.”
“It’s choosing to enhance one’s life by surrounding yourself with what really brings you fulfillment. It is defining my own standard of success and prosperity, community and fun.”
“Voluntary simplicity is balancing the realities of my life (limited economics, time and energy) with my values and implementing them into a lifestyle that is comfortable and rewarding. I think voluntary simplicity is an “art of living.” I believe it is an art to live, to be true to yourself and to be open to innovation.”
An in-depth discussion and clarification of the term “Voluntary Simplicity” by Philip Slater
All personal solutions to wealth addiction involve one form or another of what has come to be called Voluntary Simplicity. This doesn’t not necessarily mean going “back to nature” and does not mean living in poverty and discomfort, although some people may elect forms of simplicity that would be highly uncomfortable for the rest of us. Above all, it does not mean forcing yourself to give up something you really enjoy, out of some pious conviction that it’s the “right thing to do.” Voluntary Simplicity merely means trying to rid one’s life as much as possible of material clutter so as to concentrate on more important things: creativity, human survival and development, community well-being, play.
The key word in Voluntary Simplicity is “voluntary,” which means that the giving up of the material clutter is not coerced either from the outside or from the inside. As Andre Vanden Broeck observers, only those who have experienced affluence are in a position to have a “choice divorced from need.” The poor aren’t in a position to make such a choice-they are stuck with a scarcity that is neither simple nor voluntary.
Nor is Voluntary Simplicity coerced from within, for to deprive yourself out of some ideological conviction is merely to feed the Ego Mafia. The word “simplicity” may have overtones that arouse our suspicions: a vaguely puritan ring, conjuring up images of drab smocks, self-righteousness and flagellation. But if this is in the spirit in which Voluntary Simplicity is embraced the result will most certainly be noxious.
There is an old Zen story about two monks traveling together who encounter a nude woman trying to cross a stream. One of them carries her across, much to the consternation of the other. They continue in silence for a couple of hours until the second monk can stand it no longer. “How,” he asks “could you expose yourself to such temptation?” The first monk replies, “I put her down two hours ago. You’re still carrying her.”
Addiction is internal; if you experiment sincerely with Voluntary Simplicity and find yourself still thinking of money and possessions, your simplicity is a fraud and you might just as well go back to pursuing wealth until you’ve had your fill of it. To achieve its goal, Voluntary simplicity must be undertaken in the spirit, not of Puritanism or self-flagellation, but out of adventure. All adventurers throughout history have, after all, been people who abandoned comforts, possessions, love and security to seek new experiences in faraway places.
Richard Gregg, who coined the term in 1936, once complained to Gandhi that while he had no trouble giving up most things, he could not let go of his books. Gandhi told he shouldn’t try: “As long as you derive inner help and comfort from anything, you should keep it.” He pointed out that if you give things up out of a sense of duty or self-sacrifice they continue to preoccupy you and clutter your mind. To talk of “denying oneself” is to use the language of despotism. Simplicity is an affirmation, not a denial of oneself.
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V writes:
It is always nice to have our own work confirmed by others that have gone before us as well as those that follow us. Many years ago I coined the phrase “Everything you own takes a little piece ~ peace of you.” A couple years ago I came across Richard Gregg’s original work on Voluntary Simplicity penned in 1936 and this is what he said on the subject of peace disturbance or as he termed it “SIMPLICITY A KIND OF PSYCHOLOGICAL HYGIENE”.
Taken from the original work:
Pendle Hill Essays Number Three
THE VALUE OF VOLUNTARY SIMPLICITY
RICHARD B. GREGG
Acting Director of Pendle Hill 1935-36
Chapter X. SIMPLICITY A KIND OF PSYCHOLOGICAL HYGIENE
There is one further value to simplicity. It may be regarded as a mode of psychological hygiene. Just as eating too much is harmful to the body, even though the quality of all the food eaten is excellent, so it seems that there may be a limit to the number of things or the amount of property which a person may own and yet keep himself psychologically healthy. The possession of many things and of great wealth creates so many possible choices and decisions to be made every day that it becomes a nervous strain. Often the choices have to be narrow. The Russian physiologist, Pavlov, while doing experiments on conditioned reflexes with dogs, presented one dog with the necessity of making many choices involving fine discriminations, and the dog actually had a nervous breakdown and had to be sent away for six months’ rest before he became normal again.
Subsequently, American psychologists, by similar methods, produced neuroses in sheep by requiring many repetitions of mere inhibition and action; and as inhibition is an element in all choices, they believe it was that element which may have caused the neurosis in Pavlov’s dog. Of course, people are more highly organized than dogs and are easily able to weigh more possibilities and endure more inhibitions and make more choices and nice distinctions without strain, but nevertheless making decisions is work and can be overdone.
I’ll leave you with a snip of wisdom from Thoreau from his book Walden.
“The twelve labors of Hercules were trifling in comparison with those which my neighbors have undertaken; for they were only twelve, and had an end; but I could never see that these men slew or captured any monster or finished any labor. They had no friend Iolaus to burn with a hot iron the root of hydra’s head, but as soon as one head is crushed, two spring up.”
Take Care,
V (Male)
Agnostic Freethinker
Practical Philosopher
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