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us dummies---------------I just saw a spectacular u-tube of 58 minutes…it was the story of nick juvicic…the guy
with no arms/no legs/no worries…it says a lot about healthy living…
the guy talks about accepting yourself as is…
An amazing story of courage. Apparently, the guy has no severe mental problems. And, yes,his attitude is something we should admire and try for.
ier—I am glad you responded…this could go on your site also as far as helping people with psych problems…
us dummies------------I have decided that my greatest FEAR is being left ALONE…
Why?
when I was five my parents fought and threatening divorce…I was very scared…
But you are not five now little reptile. You are an adult. And you do have yourself. That you have to hold onto but leave behind what really can’t hurt you anymore, unless you want it to continue to. We know that there is more than enough to deal with in the present - those moments when “life sucks, then we die” can be best gotten through when we don’t drag such a past into our present.
When I was 7 to almost 18, I was in an orphange of about 125 children. Yet that is really being all alone, amidst all of those human beings. Our greatest aloneness can be felt among many and our greatest most wonderful “togetherness” can be felt in solitude.
when I was five my parents fought and threatening divorce…I was very scared…
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But you are not five now little reptile. You are an adult. And you do have yourself. That you have to hold onto but leave behind what really can’t hurt you anymore, unless you want it to continue to. We know that there is more than enough to deal with in the present - those moments when “life sucks, then we die” can be best gotten through when we don’t drag such a past into our present.
When I was 7 to almost 18, I was in an orphange of about 125 children. Yet that is really being all alone, amidst all of those human beings. Our greatest aloneness can be felt among many and our greatest most wonderful “togetherness” can be felt in solitude.
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arc maybe some things cant be fixed so easily…
Some people are warned by divorced/ing parents not to panic by a reduction ad absurdum (of marital bliss) by giving personal expressions of value by noteworthy people
To the unfortunate brat victims of divorce.
Some examples are
Ex prez wilson: Splendid Isolationism
Greta Garbo : I want to be alone
They said this in all honesty as a personal view of shattered and perhaps degraded life. No one really means it, and most would be hard pressed to get out of the secret garden of Emily Dickinson, or off the Island of dr. Moreau, especially since they willingly went there. We do want to go back, out of the Cherry Orchard, but there seem to be no exit.
And a time comes around as if tailor made for Colin Wilson’s outsider that we can backpack and trudge up a mountain hermetically sealed, staying there in a frightful loneliness Khrishnamurti admires, to devolve from being an Ugly American.
And that time lasts a mere 5 or so years, and the wheel of life mandala like turns a notch, and here we go, we are back, a morphed yuppy hippy, buying stuff at Wal-Mart to keep away the basic fear:
We all come in alone, and go out the same way.
We are after all is said and done, all of us, orphans.
But I wouldn’t have dreamed dragon!
arcturus replied…
But you are not five now little reptile. You are an adult. And you do have yourself. That you have to hold onto but leave behind what really can’t hurt you anymore, unless you want it to continue to. We know that there is more than enough to deal with in the present - those moments when “life sucks, then we die” can be best gotten through when we don’t drag such a past into our present.
When I was 7 to almost 18, I was in an orphange of about 125 children. Yet that is really being all alone, amidst all of those human beings. Our greatest aloneness can be felt among many and our greatest most wonderful “togetherness” can be felt in solitude.
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arc maybe some things cant be fixed so easily…
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what do you dummies think…
arc maybe some things cant be fixed so easily…
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what do you dummies think…
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I want to know how people figure out the quantity of emotions and the duration of them, when they suggest someone else has gone on to long and hasn’t let go?
How do they know what is natural and how do they measure it?
And what if they are right for themselves, but other people are different. And not different because they ‘hang on’ to pain, but different in how they process Life, perhaps the depth of their feelings, perhaps their own goals about integration and sense of well being are more thorough - which does not necessarily mean better either, but I see no reason to Think it is worse.
If these people can get over their pain easily, they should be able to get over the fact that other people take more time.
My sympathy, Turtle. I’m still suffering PTSD from the mind wars. And I’m too old to be doing this.
we all have our sufferings…
I do not trust anyone who has not suffered. Suffering hones compassion and empathy in those who are not devestated by it.
very good ier…
Then what of those who have suffered and still remain assholes? 
Turtle… for those who’s grief/suffering is prolonged, I can but only advise that they enjoy life as much as they can whilst under the emotion, or they would be missing out on a better quality of life.
maybe they will just remain assholes…
I tend not to either. However…
It can do just the opposite, lead to coldness, lack of compassion, entitlement attitudes, revenge against everyone or women or men, violence and worse. A lot of serial killers had terrible childhoods.