Official: Post a Picture of Yourself

[Ben JS]

Is that you or your brother in the last pic?

I gave my brother my savings so he could go to Japan after his divorce.

The picture with snow, is him in Japan.

His smile fills me with joy.

----

The last picture was me roughly 4 years ago.

-

Below is a picture of me roughly 2 years ago - When I joined this forum.

I haven't left my bed.

if so, you look alike

Thanks.

But I was always deprived.

My brother told my girlfriend I didn't care for her, and that I used her for fun.

I was too insecure to defend myself, so she took his word over mine.

I learnt that pain came to all I touched.

So, I chose a life of isolation.

Where I can't hurt anyone, but myself.

----

Later in my short life, I spent time showing her that she was beautiful, and that it was my shortcomings, that caused the separation.

She got married recently.

I'm happy for her.

[idioticidioms]

Is that you or your brother in the last pic?

I gave my brother my savings so he could go to Japan after his divorce.

The picture with snow, is him in Japan.

His smile fills me with joy.

----

The last picture was me roughly 4 years ago.

-

Below is a picture of me roughly 2 years ago - When I joined this forum.

I haven't left my bed.

if so, you look alike

Thanks.

But I was always deprived.

My brother told my girlfriend I didn't care for her, and that I'm using her for fun.

I was too insecure to defend myself, so she took his word over mine.

I learnt that pain came to all I touched.

So, I chose a life of isolation.

I've had similar things happen to me. I refuse to remain isolated, though. I don't think I'm really any happier for that choice, to be honest; it brings about its own set of problems and bullshit. Even in isolation, you bring pain to things you touch, but I don't say that meanly. It's just to say that I sympathize with you and wish I could take some of your pain, which I guess I just did. Still, though, I wouldn't trade where I am now for any of where I've been and I wouldn't trade it for isolation. I have thought about it, though. I'd like to take a couple years away from this purpose that drives me to try to live simply and without worrying about the world; just focus on myself, but I couldn't even really do that when I needed to sit back and do that. I'm sorry for the way the world is. I know it's not my fault, but I'm still sorry.

I know some would question how your brothers' smile could fill you with joy after he did what he did to you, but I can understand. I've only ever wished the best for every person who has fucked me over. Sure, there's been some anger involved and I've often ranted and raved in private where no one could really see; took some of that rage out on internet trolls and flamers that deserved it. But, at the end of it, I only ever hoped that some day they would 'get it' and their life would be better for it.

I was actually in the process of opening up a bit here, but just deleted everything I typed. I don't want to make this seem like a pissing match and you don't need the weight of my problems or what I've been through. Something tells me you've been through enough on your own that you're not mentioning. Some times I doubt what I do and if it's even worth it and then I'm reminded of people like you; people like how I used to be. You give me hope for the future even though you don't know it. You give me incentive to keep trying and to keep pushing forward even when all seems against me and I thank you for that. People like you are exactly what I'm fighting for.

[idioticidioms]

Not sure what pics I've already posted...











These are listed from oldest to newest; the oldest being about 3/4's of a year to a year old.

[Ben JS]

Thank you Idioms for your kind words.

Life isn't a competition.

It's healthy to let shit out.

To say one has experienced pain, does not undermine anyone else's pain.

I think, it's how one grows from pain. With support from those who relate.

I know some would question how your brothers' smile could fill you with joy after he did what he did to you, but I can understand.

My personal answer:

Inferiority (My Brother)

====

It's nice to see you smile too, Idioms!

[MagsJ]

...so was that you in the top pic too? if so, then you look nothing like your brother...

[Ben JS]

We must look alike.

Top two pictures were both my brother

You think I have the confidence to go to parties and shit looking that comfortable?

Shit, you don't know me well.

But it's awfully flattering for you to say I look like my brother, even if you're only saying it for my benefit.

Thanks

[MagsJ]

Well then you only look like him in the first...

I don't say anything for anyone's benefit... my family can vouch for that

One day I thought to myself.. if I don't experience the new in my lifetime I won't have lived, then I truly became me.

[Mr Reasonable]

Ben, life is a competition.

[Ben JS]

Competition - the activity or condition of striving to gain or win something by defeating or establishing superiority over others.

====

Dependent on the individual whether their life is a competition.

[MagsJ]

Dependent on the individual whether their life is a competition.

I don't compete with others, and can't be around those that do... they irk me so - so no, life isn't a competition to all...

[Mr Reasonable]

Competition - the activity or condition of striving to gain or win something by defeating or establishing superiority over others.

====

Dependent on the individual whether their life is a competition.

If you as an individual decide that you wont compete, then you've simultaneously decided to lose. Sorry man, you can quit the soccer team, and you can quit the job, but you can't quit life and believe me, if you rest or if you are complacent then you will in fact live a lesser existence than those who choose to compete and can win.

[Ecclesiastes]

Evolution... survival of the fittest.

You can see why some want to opt out.

[Ben JS]

The North won, Ecc.

The South gave in.

And The North enforced equality.

The stronger party, willed equality.

-

Nice try, Manchild.

[idioticidioms]

The North won, Ecc.

The South gave in.

And The North enforced equality.

The stronger party, willed equality.

-

Nice try, Manchild.

Exactly. Nice try, Manchild. You tell me in another thread it's all about integrity and here in this thread it's about whoever has the stronger will. Would you make up your mind, you fucker?

[Ben JS]

The stronger party, willed equality.

Competition - the activity or condition of striving to gain or win something by defeating or establishing superiority over others.

====

You went into that thread masking your own need as mine. You had the integrity to admit it, but only temporarily.

You let a woman's insecurity, validate yours. Keep in mind, Ecc agrees with your conclusion.

That's your demise.

I try to empower you. They try to protect themselves.

Clarify, Verify, Instill, and Reinforce

And you call me a Manchild.

I show you more respect than any of them.

[MagsJ]

Evolution... survival of the fittest.

You can see why some want to opt out.

Have you seen an overly competitive person nearly kill themselves to win something?

Some compete with others, some compete with only themselves... I do the latter... infact, many people I know are the same and they are very successful in life.

[Mr Reasonable]

I used to compete with others then I realized that I was way better than almost everyone, at almost everything so now I just continually raise my own standards to better myself. It's like having to run a race to get better lap times because it's a no brainer that you're going to win all the races that are just against other racers.

[Ecclesiastes]

The North won, Ecc.

The South gave in.

And The North enforced equality.

The stronger party, willed equality.

-

Nice try, Manchild.

The stronger party saw agriculture mechanizing and a need for cheap labor in northern factories.
Nothing to do with equality.

Only a naive child would think such a thing.
Or a defective human, looking for hope.

(PS: Those pictures idioticidioms posted of himself, did they make you angry?)

[idioticidioms]

The stronger party, willed equality.

Competition - the activity or condition of striving to gain or win something by defeating or establishing superiority over others.

====

You went into that thread masking your own need as mine. You had the integrity to admit it, but only temporarily.

You let a woman's insecurity, validate yours. Keep in mind, Ecc agrees with your conclusion.

That's your demise.

I try to empower you. They try to protect themselves.

Clarify, Verify, Instill, and Reinforce

And you call me a Manchild.

I show you more respect than any of them.

Yes, and I am willing equality. You just don't like it because you don't like where you've been taking yourself.

[Ben JS]

Who have I disempowered?

I've confronted you on your shortcomings.

Highlighting them for you.

That is a respectful act.

---

Do you want me to go back to your posts from a week ago, and quote how many times you said it's OK to let people who disagree with you die?

Do you still hold that view?

[Mr Reasonable]

Who decides what's a shortcoming?

[Ben JS]

The Scientific Method

Idioms made presumptions.

[idioticidioms]

Who have I disempowered?

I've confronted you on your shortcomings.

Highlighting them for you.

That is a respectful act.

---

Do you want me to go back to your posts from a week ago, and quote how many times you said it's OK to let people who disagree with you die?

Do you still hold that view?

I never said that people who disagree with me should die. I never said that one bit. I reacted in the moment and said something I meant in the moment that I didn't mean later on, which is human. I said it because of how they were disagreeing and the fact that they couldn't present suitably why they were disagreeing and I tore their arguments apart with accurate pinpoint analyses of them while they reduced themselves to mere insults because they had no argument left to suitably give.

And you, you're nothing but shit to me. You have treated me like shit when I gave you respect. You say you respect me by pointing out my shortcomings, but you only ever pointed out one and that was the fact that I posted on an old thread of yours as if it were new and said something worth saying while opening myself up to you only to get stomped on in a cruel manner. I did not step on you for you opening your self up in that thread. No, I tried to give you the best advice I could until you tried to stomp on me.

You're just a fool who doesn't get it. And I do make use of the full scientific process. I make assumptions so I can test those; they're called hypotheses and your reactions tell me whether I'm right or not. No matter how you choose to respond, unless you're truthful; I can tell because I feel it for one and when I go back over and actually observe and analyze it, I see what it is. Which is why if I'm wrong, I urge others to prove it to me. If you can't, then you're not worth your shit.

[Mr Reasonable]

I think he was trying to disempower me in the other thread.

[Ben JS]

You're talking to yourself.

Aye

EVEN SO, I THINK THAT THAT WAS A REALLY CRAPPING THING TO SAY

===

Last bit of advice, then. You should probably make that known while sharing old posts like this in new posts. Would save confusion.

----

Read the post, I said - My personal answer.

Answer - a solution to a problem or dilemma.

http://ilovephilosophy.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=144085&start=2000#p2482146

With that in mind -

a man's work is never done...



You don't have an inferiority complex. What you really have is a fear of failing and that fear keeps you from succeeding.

I told him bluntly that he was talking to himself, he admitted it, then let others validate his insecurity.

====

Something that could have been countered, had he verified his presumptions.

He didn't.