You seem to be missing the point, so let me start over.
In strictly RM:AO terms;
1) Given any small portion of space, we know that it is filled with nothing but infinitesimal pulses of randomly propagating affect, a “field of affectance”.
2) If the density of the pulses gets too high, a prolonged traffic jam occurs as the pulses encounter each other. The concentration of affects at the center of the traffic jam becomes extremely highly dense and crowded. It grows to a maximum density possible. And the density or concentration of the randomly propagating affects gradually decreases with the distance from that center. That very small region immediately surrounding that center is easily visible and is referred to as “a particle”. The visible concentration is “the particle of matter”.
3) The surrounding less dense field is not visible and extends far from the particle and gets less dense, less concentrated, the further away from the particle.
4) If two such concentrations of affects are in close proximity, both with lesser concentrated fields surrounding them, the two centers will begin to migrate toward each other because the concentration/density is greater between the two particles than other surrounding areas.
5) The migration occurs because the traffic is heavier between the two traffic jams and that causes the random propagating to be slower between the particles than other regions, thus inside the small region of each particle there is more prolongation/delaying occurring in the small area nearer the other particle. Because the particle affectance concentration is already at a maximum level, the particles cannot simply grow larger. Instead they shift or migrate the maximum concentration/density, maintaining the same size, merely closer to each other.
Now in terms of common physics;
1) Given any small portion of space, we know that it is filled with pulses of randomly propagating “EMR energy and gravity”.
2) There might also be a “particle of mass” floating in that space.
3) A “gravitational field” is emitted by that particle.
4) If there are two such particles in close proximity, they will be attracted toward each other.
5) The two particles gravitate toward each other because they each attract the other by gravitational force.
So to translate;
Affectance field = EMR energy and gravity.
Highly concentrated affectance field = mass particle.
Low concentrated affectance field = gravity field (can be called “mass field”).
Affectance particle migration due to a gradient in the affectance field = particle mass attraction due to gravitational force.
Affectance field with higher average PtA than the ambient field has = positive electrostatic field.
Affectance field with lower average PtA than the ambient field has = negative electrostatic field.
Affectance density = energy density.
The density of affectance has little to do with the electrostatic field. The electromagnetic field is a field of changing electrostatic field. The “density” involved merely refers to how much changing of the electrostatic field is happening within a volume. There is far, far more changing of the subtle EMR within a strong gravity field, but the magnitude of the changing is infinitesimal and the average electrostatic field is close to zero.
An electromagnetic field might have greater energy density than a gravitational field. It just depends what you are measuring. The energy density is the affectance density. So close to the center of a particle, where the affectance density is near maximum possible, the gravitational effect/field is extremely high, but there is no detectable EMR.
In common physics, the smallest electromagnetic wave is a huge macroscopic wave of affectance pulses. In RM:AO the affectance field itself is made of the same thing as that macroscopic EMR wave, merely infinitesimal sizes and randomized.