There are also inferential proofs, say, the counting numbers… even though we can’t count them all, we still know it’s a well ordered set through deduction and inferential proof (we infer evident proofs)
The axioms of math can be inferred, but that’s not the point of this discussion, because it is also well-ordered (like anything, it is an ordered, finite set of axioms. But again, that’s not the point of this discussion). In an infinite mental model where we can imagine what it means to add 3 to a number…
3= 1+2… 4=2+2… and so on. It goes on forever.
The problem with this infinite number of “numbers” is that it is an infinite number of numbers, and we will never be able to keep adding up all of them. So we can say that, if there is a set of axioms of math that describe an infinite number of numbers, those numbers don’t exist in reality. And that’s ok. It is not the goal of math to build a mathematical model of real things. It is the goal of math to be internally consistent, and to describe an accurate picture of reality. We can call a mathematical model of something real a useful model, but we shouldn’t make the mistake of assuming that there is an independent reality to which our mathematics is a window into.
Consent should not be violated because it is a sacred human right.
It is the very cornerstone of our humanity. Just like every other human right, it can be abused, violated, or exploited.
Consent is the ability to knowingly and freely agree with someone.
In a consensual relationship, there is no forced intercourse, no physical violence or non-consensual sex. It is as simple as that.
Consent is not about power, or coercion, or being told what to do. If that is all that you want to know, go ahead and stop reading now.
If you want more information on how to have a sexual relationship that is based on mutual consent, and you are at least 18 years of age, I have a few tips for you.
Be assertive
Your partner must respect you, and agree with you. If you want a relationship with them, and a relationship of any kind, your partner must respect you and make you the priority in their life. This is where consent comes into play.
You may want more intimacy and sex than your partner does, or even different kinds of sex. Some people are more physically turned on by rough sex, or sexual intercourse without ejaculation. Others are more interested in oral sex or masturbation.
Consent must be expressed, not implied. If you have to be told to do something, or if you are being ordered to do it, it is not consensual.
If you are the only one in a relationship, and your partner is forcing you to do something, do not do it. That is not consent. Don’t force your partner to be someone you don’t want to be with.
Don’t be too drunk
It is OK to have a drink, or a couple, or three. It is also okay to drink too much and not be able to consent to sex. That is called drinking to the point of impairment.
You are not responsible if you do not have a drink. Drinking is not a consenting activity, especially if you cannot get your mind on what is going on, or if you are so drunk that you black out.
A person who is too drunk to consent to sex is as much a victim as a person who is forced into sex. A person cannot consent to something they are so drunk that they do not remember, or they are too drunk to care.
Be sure to know what your partner means by “yes”