+++True. But if you could see the ILP photograph we voted on back then as some men here no doubt do, I suspect that you’d suspect that these men will try harder than others to be “sensitive and respectful” if that’s what it takes to get you to, well, you know.+++
I don’t see much harm in something that encourages men to be sensitive and respectful. A cynic may say that it’s not genuine, but in practical terms, as far as the general good is concerned, does that matter?
+++Well, the problematic and precarious parts do mostly revolve around changes in your life that are particularly dramatic. Ater all, if not much changes from day to week to month to year in your life, it is less likely to bring about those parts. What I call the Song Be Syndrome. An experience which could hardly have been more problematic and precarious in regard to my own “sense of self”.+++
Traumatic experiences can certainly have that effect. I’ve known enough people, at school for example, who have experienced losing their sight. That’s one particular trauma that I’ll never have to experience.
+++Still, when sighted men compliment you on your looks, what can that possibly mean to you? From your frame of mind, they should compliment you on the way you smell, the way you feel, the way your voice sounds.+++
No, not at all. I don’t want sighted people to act like blind ones.
+++Back again to that communication gap inherent in a world where some are sighted, some are born blind, some are sighted and then become blind. Especially in regard to love and sex. For sighted men, it’s what they see that seems to count the most.+++
Seems to, may well be the correct way of putting it, if pheromones have the effect on everyone that I suspect they probably do. I’m conscious of them, but most people aren’t.
+++As for my own subjective reaction to the photo as “provocative”, that can only be deeply rooted in my own personal self. It’s how “I” see it. And not much more than that.
I think the photograph is, well, erotic? The short skirt, the legs spread, the way in which you seem to be winking at us through your fingers. You seem to be especially tall…statuesque even. Again, hard to put in words. And wholly subjective…“private”. But, sure, if I was not living in my cocoon world and was closer to your own age, I’d certainly be inclined to think about at least the possibility of a romantic relationship with you. But that would only be because all of the other ways I might be attracted to you. Your intelligence, emotional depth, accomplishments, sense of humor etc. Though, no doubt, this revolves in part around the sort of thing that Satyr always comes back to: the nature of the human libido. Especially in regard to men around women they find attractive.
Like that scene from When Harry Met Sally: youtu.be/i8kpYm-6nuE+++
Well, the skirt is part of the leisure centre uniform, as is the rest of what I’m wearing, since we did it just before I left for work. I was crouching down because the mirror was on the floor. As for winking, that was definitely not the case. And I’m 5’6" (168cm), by the way, but I’ll let you be the judge of whether you think that’s especially tall.
+++Yes, your face is hidden, and maybe I am remembering this wrong, but in the other five photographs you provided for us to “vote” on, your face was there to be seen more clearly. Or not?+++
At such a distance of time, I can’t really remember either, and I’m not even sure if I still have those other pics, or at any rate, where exactly I’ve saved them. What I do remember about that “photo shoot” with my brother is deliberately holding the camera in front of my face for at least some of the pics. It was also highly amusing, with him directing me to get into position, and so on.
+++It’s not about being into blind girls. It’s about being into girls/women they find attractive. The sex part. And your assumption about men’s reaction to you comes from a perspective that revolves around the fact that you can’t see how men do react to you.
But, again, sure, no doubt about it: what can I possibly know about you around men. It is what it is, given the distance between us.+++
I don’t have to assume though. I know very well that a lot of guys are put off by my blindness. Some people can hardly even bear to speak to me. I’m not complaining though, and it’s very much their loss and not mine. It was my choice to live my life among the sighted.
+++Well, it was Supannika who taught me just how important physical intimacy is in a truly profound romantic relationship. Which just makes it all the harder for me to understand a six-year commitment to abstain from sex. Forget about the sex itself, it’s 6 years without the intimacy that can make human existence so much more endurable when things go bad. Romance in all of its many splendors.+++
It’s because of the less than fulfilling nature of all my most recent romantic endeavours. I needed a break from all that emotional hassle.
+++And I can assure you that you will never have any reason to doubt your safety in our own exchanges.+++
Good!