+++Some men are just better than others at keeping their true motive hidden. Especially in regard to sex. Especially in this day and age where sex is everywhere. I don’t know all the details regarding how an exchange with Adam ended up with you contacting the mods here to report him, but that was clearly his motive back then. Obviously, right? So, what is his true motive now? Not to suggest you should be careful here would seem foolish to me.+++
Men are not in the slightest bit adept at keeping that particular motive hidden, but it very much depends on how they go about it. They can be sensitive and respectful, or crass and obsessive.
+++Now, that’s what appeals to me. The recognition that who you think you are “here and now” can, given new experiences and relationships, become both profoundly problematic and profoundly precarious. In regard to things like love and sex, “I”, in my view, is an “existential contraption” when interacting with others in a world of “contingency, chance and change”.
We simply understand the meaning of that differently. Though neither one of us more rationally than the other.+++
Yes, I’ve always said that my opinions about anything are always subject to change. I don’t regard this as problematic or precarious, though. Rather, it’s one of the things that makes life so interesting.
+++Yes, in the world as you have come to experience it…as someone who was blind from birth. In the world as most sighted men experience it however your avatar is what they see. And in some respects it is a truly provocative photograph. Only it is not really possible for me to explain to you why I believe it would bring out the stalkers among us. Even the philosophers among us. Why? Because it’s a “visual” thing. You are very, very attractive. The face. The body. But, in not being able to see that as I believe many men do, the communication will break down. There is simply no way for me to explain that in greater detail. Only to suggest again that, among sighted men, you should be especially cautious in regard to romantic relationships.+++
Thank you for the compliment. I’d like you to try and explain why you think it’s provocative, though. My brother said it was the cutest one of the bunch, but that’s not the same as provocative. I was, however, under the impression that my face is hidden in it, deliberately. It’s also, I should add, something like ten years old.
Your words appear to imply that you think I’m some sort of guy magnet, but I assure you that this is not the case. Not everyone is into blind girls, you see. And it’s patently obvious when this is the case, no matter how much they try and hide it.
+++And, as always, how do you know for sure why they treat you with respect once the reality of sex becomes a part of the exchange. Maybe not from your end, but from theirs. And respect that revolves around telling you what they think you want to hear because their motive has less to do with the discussion itself and more to do with their ulterior motive?
Yes, this can get really, really tricky, really, really fast. No doubt about that.+++
Wanting sex does not necessarily imply disrespect. As long at it remains unspoken, that is.
+++Also, the fact that I live in my “cocoon world”, am old enough to be your father and was interested only in sustaining a “virtual friendship” with you. You are more than just “fairly safe” with me.
Also, however, In the virtual world, what people tell you they are may bear little resemblance to what they really are. You have no way of knowing if I really do live in America. Yes, in fact, I do reside in Baltimore, Maryland. But “online”, you have to be especially cautious.+++
Your use of language makes it very clear that you’re American. I have no reason to doubt any of the rest.