This is roughly the progression of desire I think most posters here follow during their periods of residence.
- to be noticed.
- to be liked (though to many this is either unexpected, unimportant, or actively undesired).
- to be respected/taken seriously (some people try to substitute these with “feared” but, wrong medium tbh., and they usually end up disappointed).
Many, even most, especially some of the long term members are quite happy to stay right here.
- to be right, and acknowledged as right. (this is where people become both combative, and obsessive, especially if they either come to the forums with a rigid manifesto, or form one over time).
- to make friends and influence people. (Some however are more comfortable with drawing together a cadre of sycophants and trolling till they eventually, depending on the group’s social skills and/or endurance, split away to a new forum in the hinterlands of the net).
I was stuck on 4 for a long, long time. Then I gave up being right about stuff and became content to make other people at least question the things they believe, or at least believe they believe.