The giver of value (why/answer) is the source of value. The willful receiver of value is equally capable of being the source (substance) of value who gives it.
You owe as much to them (other willful evaluators/receivers) as you owe to your competing values—right order that recognizes/honors (understands) value as sourced in the evaluator (even if disagreeing with the evaluation), so every evaluator must be treated as Value in itself.
Pivot that and you will sharpen all the right edges, and smooth away all the wrong ones.