I'm SO PISSED, but is it reasonable?

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She likes/d you and she wanted to get to know you better.

I girl would usually ask a guy out when she feels comfortable enough with him to get to know him one on one. If you still want her, though, don’t ignore her completely, just keep it cool (low-key and casual) and give her tit-for-tat (and no more). Also, don’t show her that you are pissed, you’ll come across as desperate.

Dating your co-worker is usually not a good idea, though. Chances are, the rumors are flying around about you this very moment at your workplace. If you see people (especially women) snickering as you pass by, you’ll know. :wink:

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Yeah…good plan.

I think the ladies might back me up on this: the date started off wrong with the flowers and chocolates. That’s very old-fashioned and kind of reserved for Valentine’s day, and very awkward to deal with on a first date. Guy shows up and BAM he’s hitting you with all this stuff.

If you want to do something other than just show up, I’d get her a single stem flower like a rose or carnation, but not red or white. Pink is good, yellow would be even better, you could also consider a multi-colored flower like pink-tipped yellow. It’s interesting and unexpected. If you give her one flower it’s nice in that she knows you had to go out of your way to get it and give it to her, she knows it didn’t cost too much, and she doesn’t have to carry an armful of stuff somewhere.

Giving girls chocolate is also usually a bad idea on a first date. If you’re going out to eat she’ll eat unhealthily if she wants to.

That said, that was real bitchy of her to tell you she didn’t like the flowers and chocolates. That’s just mind-boggling bad taste. There’s no reason she couldn’t have just thanked you for the gifts even if she didn’t like them and still have a nice date with you.

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Good advise here. =D>

I’d say you were too forward, and she became nervous and closed. I wouldn’t fret over it, just make sure you stay relaxed and casual next time.

Perhaps you are thinking about this whole thing too much- overanylizing it. That’s never good. Just take a deep breath and try not to let the next thing damage you too much. Just try not to think so much about this shit. Wait a while before you start thinking deeply about it.

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Girls are idiots. End of thread.

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unoriginal,

I’m sorry to say this, but you shot yourself in the foot on this one, no, make that ass, yes, you shot yourself in the ass on this one, and pretty deep if I may say so myself. You screwed this pooch in a royal way. This pooch will never be them same again. I mean, how could one possibly salvage this after dropping 100? Sorry, I was looking at standard23’s avatar while writing those previous sentences and I’m not sure if that girl is riding a horse, and whether she’s saying ‘yes.’

Anyway, back to the pooch, ur, um, I mean, date; no, my friend, you did everything right. Not very original, but you did everything right. You crossed your 't’s and dotted your 'i’s. You were the perfect technician. Yes, we already know it was the wrong girl, we don’t need Derrida to tell us that, but what is one to do? You can only ever try.

And now the Good news: You are still in the game. Patch up those wounds because we are going back in. You haven’t given any indication as to whether you don’t like her, so I am assuming you still do, like her, that is. Assuming we can overcome the bling factor incurred on the first date, I think this can be salvaged … the relationship, not your money, but then again…

Enter Humble Pie: Since we’ve established she asked you out, er, we can safely say she likes you (just going on a hunch, here). If you like her, ask her out again. I know this might not sound too cool, but get vulnerable. We know you weren’t nervous on your first date (as exemplified by your throwdown), but tell her you were and you just wanted to impress her because you liked her (which you probably did. Why over-think it if you didn’t … unless you were trying to fine tune your game, you dog you). After your soft moment, do something active, playful (um, I’m not suggesting strip poker, here. Think innocent) and fun. If you get hungry, suggest to grab a bite. This is not an opportunity for you to bite her (even when her neck is exposed). Keep it casual. Talk about her interests and what she likes. Be interested … in her, not what your next move is going to be.

Which reminds me; you never really mentioned a great deal anything about the tone of your conversation with this girl, or what you guys talked about. This could hold a great deal of value, and perhaps an occasional clue.

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She is weird. I think she reads 30 5 in. thick books daily and takes those brain performance enhancement pills that you get at the health food store.

So update us on your dating troubles.

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Sangrain: That was awesome :laughing: =D>

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The best way to stop sensitive information from getting out is not to post it at all. Editing a thread doesn’t work, we can tell what’s going on from the replies. Duh.