Say for an example I can control going outside and being around people and not being isolated but what if I couldn’t control those people’s actions and I never made friends and no matter what I did it did nothing and even though I was around people I always remained lonely and most if not all people did not care about me would that be a life worth living ?
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Never expect another human to complete you. That’s something only a perfect being can do. Sit with the lonely from the fullness of being completed by the perfect That’s worth living.
It sounds like you’re hinting at God and I disagree with you I think if I had a friend or a girlfriend I think let me State before I even continue with that that I think it’s possible that I can find a perfect friend or a perfect girlfriend and that yes that would complete life my life more so than God because I could feel and talk to the other one where is the other one is completely invisible and almost non-existent and empty.
You can’t find a perfect human… sorry.
You can love someone despite their crap, though.
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Only you can answer that. Each individual person decides what gives their life meaning. Not so much “decides what is meaningful” but must be the one to recognize it for themselves. You need to discover what is meaningful to you.
If not being lonely is meaningful to you then seek other ways to not feel lonely, other than traditional friends. Like this place for example, you are here interacting with people around the subject of interesting ideas and discussions. Hopefully that makes you feel a little less lonely.
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I don’t know how to answer. This very thing has been happening to me since 2010, but the last thing i would ever consider is killing myself.
But I’m not really alone. I do have a friend who’s always been there… a friend that has never lied to me, never cheated or stolen from me. A friend who is always willing and waiting for me… and that friend is the night.
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Men are fricken idiots. All of them. They have their moments, though. Like this one:
Honestly, what is so bad about being alone? The modern world has so many ways of entertainment, knowledge, remote digital interaction and communication.
I feel like very soon the impetus will shift. Thus-far it is like an unspoken, “why would I ignore the real world of people around me, just because of some online stuff” whereas very soon the collective ethos will be something more like, “why would I care about whatever ‘real’ people are doing or demanding of me in the ‘real world’ when I can live comfortable and easy online?”
Be patient my friend.
That’s exactly right. You can be off-line and not have sex with people. Imagine having a reason to care about people other than sex. …or whatever this thread is about.
…every impulse passes except the eternal one.
— Captain Mic Drop
(the system made me wait a full hour to post this)
If you choose to be alone, no, it isn’t bad. If you don’t choose to and are alone, others must be rejecting you. Why are they rejecting you? If it’s because you’re an asshat then you’re choosing to be alone because you’re choosing to be an asshat.
But what if you don’t want to be alone, are alone, and you aren’t even an asshat?
That’s the worst possible loneliness. Being a guy everybody would love but instead is hated because he’s been made a boogeyman. Can you even imagine?
“Good morning, sir! I’m Prom! Allow me to get the door f…”
“GET AWAY FROM ME YOU 14… NO WAIT, 12 YEAR OLD CHILD MOLESTING RAPIST!”
Eventually, because you know that’s coming you begin to dislike people before they can hate you. It’s a sociopath thing. Isolation for so long that your brain not only rewires for solitude but people start turning your stomach.
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I think the first thing to do is to become complete by yourself. If you can be happy alone, then you don’t need other people. Then you can be selective about the people you let into your life.
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…are you honestly of the opinion that you are not an asshat after intentionally doing asshat things? …am I the asshat for not getting the joke and pointing it out to you that you are definitely an asshat?
You’re not alone. You’re in a world full of people who care. Talk to someone. I feel sorry for you.
You can start by writing a long letter of apology to the mother of the child you got put away for.
Baby steps.
The point here is less about what people are going through and how they feel it because with some people you could experience loneliness and not have anybody with you and that could be so profound for them that they commit suicide and for other people it doesn’t bother them at all emotionally. Perhaps I should have asked that question instead.
Nah. When your kid sees a drunk guy flashing someone in a store, you don’t freak out and pretend your life and family are ruined forever.
If i apologize for anything, it’ll be to the wives and childrens of the cops and lawyers i waste for putting me in prison and destroying my life.
I didn’t actually think you would do it.
I was making a rhetorical point.
My real advice would be to buy a shotgun.
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… a hunting shotgun, for when you go off grid, where only the wild animals will see you similarly naked, and be completely bored by it, just like you prefer. because we know you weren’t doing anything for a traumatized reaction of utter shock and dismay. What fool would assume that after hearing how you talk to your mother???
/Samuel L Jackson impression
I have no right to bear arms to defend myself against the tyranny of my government, and it is illegal for me to possess a shotgun.
The first thing you wanna do is disarm all your felons 'cause they’re the ones that’ll most likely start a revolution. Stalin was a bank robber and a veritable Billy the Kid with two Tokarev TTs.
I do, however, have the right to bear arms if i harvest a bear with my crossbow… which i am legally able to own.
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Prudent. Unless you’re hunting bears that can actually kill you.
Haven’t you ever seen Revenant? True story.