Your first reply to this thread you said judgment enlightens rather than condemns. Getting back into that light…
Can you tell me briefly why you think consent is an unsolved problem? What is the problem as you see it? Is it a third thing in addition to the two I replied about in my comment to the YouTube vid? Are you being mistreated by anyone who is violating your consent?
Are you addicted to any substances you should quit, or off mood regulating substances you should resume? Do you have people in your life who can help you feel centered and grounded? Your eyes in the video look like you are experiencing psychosis, mania, or methamphetamines. Do you have someone who can help calm you, get you into detox, to the doctor, etc?
My consent is immediately violated by not being able to have sex without it being mutual subtle rape… a collective condition which is signaling that no means yes. I want consensual sex. In the human species, this is impossible. Always has been.
But I don’t just think of myself. What if a billion people want sex with a primary partner of mine, but only 4 other people get to be with that person?
I’m violating the consent of a billion people.
My heart and mind is wired to suffer hard if anyone in existence is having their consent violated.
This is the problem with the old teachers.
The moment you release the thunderous words, “consent violation is the only problem”
All gods and religions die in that moment.
I can answer your question in many ways and clarify if you want.
I’m halfway through the vid. You mention the three dimorphisms. You’re beginning to talk about no means yes relationships. You had to stop and think. Here’s a scenario you didn’t consider. Between approach escalation, and reciprocation, there is approach deescalation. It still involves no means yes. Sometimes less is more. It signals strength and self-control. It intrigues. It gets a question. Most men are sheep, but this one is a … something else. What is he?
Women are weird. Weird is good. Protect it. You’re welcome.
You started out trying to ground his psychopathology in his existential situation which I think could have been helpful. Now it seems to me you’re just feeding his delusional system.
I skipped fortuitously to the subtle part. You’re contradicting yourself. If both know what they’re consenting to, no matter how subtle, it isn’t rape. If they both KNOW they are deceiving each other, it’s a game, not a lie.
See if you can understand how this is relevant. In the book “The Three Christs of Ypsilanti” a therapist worked in a mental institution with three patients who thought they were Jesus Christ. He put them together in a therapy group. Although they’re thinking was somewhat modifying, all three continued to believe that they were Christ. So I don’t think cognitive therapy alone would be helpful. Have you ever been on prescribed psychotropic medication?
I never claimed to be the dictator of the world. Jesus and his father did. Anyone who relates to people like this are trying to be king or queen of everything. Or indirectly by rubbing shoulders with the king or queen or existence.
And then I come along and threaten your ego.
“Consent violation is the only problem in existence and EVERYONE can determine what that is for THEMSELVES!!!”
Yeah, it’s called “non dictator shit”
And by the way Felix fuck you. You make the job of decent people harder.
Ecmandu, the folks who got you out of where you were so you could work on yourself… Do you think the same way about them that you think about the world? If not, what is the difference?
What you’re asking about my judgement on a person to person basis would take me about 3000 characters and I don’t have the time now. I have a guest from out of town.
But I will say this in a simple way. I see everyone who’s a serious sociopath as more ignorant than a less sociopathic person.
Meaning: from my perspective it’s a problem of education and not the person themselves.
