After a long marriage, if “successful”, partners tend to take opposite aspects from their partners typology… resulting in time by a balance. I for example, am a very, very rare type, but have two kinds of even more different types of women to expect a stable and enjoyable relationship from.
If I was to not select from them, the drive for the woman to change me, and me them would cause us to either break up, or entrench till one yielded imperceptibly over time, accommodating one another in a kind of judo of infinite turns. Whereas she would merely invert and switch aspects, it could lead to a complete destruction of self for me, and my thought process lost. I would be much dumber, but perhaps a better speller. Or she could be torn into adopting two mutually incompatible types, to accommodate my natural range.
Most people just take a left or right hemisphere specialization, where literally that designation is good enough. Where the differ they become similar in codependency… one adopts the style of the others clothing for example. Its funny to see old couples wear similar clothing, they didnt start out that way.
Your husband is being avoidant, but I dont like comming to a conclusion just off that.
Your refusal of accepting knowledge is based in what we would classically call the reason… a value judgment, but begins in the intellect. I basically know, using the shoe analogy, what direction your thought was using, literally the lace and which two loops they went through. But that isnt indicative of a “stable” personality type… I would need more variables to isolate other strands of thoughts.
However… I can say your receptivity to imagination, how you relate to persons personally, lack of anger and acceptance of people in life suggests a strong lateralization, though very specialized, of both frontal lobes.
What stumps me is your lack of active imagination, or visual analogies, or logic for that matter that would be a indicator as how you relate to the single trait you expressed of your husband, who can sit either in the SMAs, or more likely the Thalamus, which can be either hemisphere.
Some personality types naturally straddle both hemispheres. Long married couples should be typed together, and their understanding and frustrating frictions are important in the evaluation process.

