I read the thread ( and honestly perhaps I should have before replying on this one… I could have shot myself in the foot.) Heh
Let me come out and say what my thinking is when it concerns male success. Be that in any realm, so long as it involves either some form of competition, or systems where acclaim, attention, financial rewards etc is a result of success.
I do not believe it entirely unreasonable to think that for many men who wish to gain a notable level of success in their particular endeavors… one of the underlying factors in that male’s mind whether conscious or unconscious is the hope (a) female(s) will take notice of that success and respond.
I am sure that sounds more sexist than what I intended, but at the moment I cannot phrase it any better then that.
So, to ignore a woman’s intellectual gifts, or what might result from the typical female’s more empathetic nature, Much… quite a large Much of what Males achieve in even male dominated roles, is a result of that male’s desire to earn recognition from females. And that, in my thinking, make women superior to men.
So it is not a question of what women must do to prove themselves equal to men, it is a question of what men do to prove themselves worthy of the attention of women.
And I do truly believe that many men feel threatened when women encroach upon male dominated fields not necessarily because men know themselves to be superior, or if the men do feel superior it is because they think they have earned that in releation to where they think women should be compared to them.
What men are really threatened by when women encroach upon typically male dominated areas is that some are afraid women will realize that we aren’t so specially gifted after all. And I am sure that, on some level, some men despair of this because now they must work even harder to be worthy of any sort of notice.
here, in America, I have noticed a trend in the last few decades in which it is men who talk about a woman’s wealth, her success, her status. In the construction trade it was not uncommon to hear many a burly blue collar guy wish he could meet a rich, successful woman. And having heard that with my own ears, I do truly believe that it is not just blue collar construction workers who feel that way now.
I hope I have clarified my position.
Thank you.