I had to start a new blog because my laptop has bugs.
I went back to the orginal thesis, in which You related
a lack of expectations, as the requirement for further
understanding. I read You here, and the corollary here in practical terms is 'do not judge, lest you be judged. Judging involves a hidden expectation, whether knowingly, or not. The problem here is, that man is a creature of habit, and we all at times find ourself doing this. Now if one person interacting with another, or, within a group, the difficulty arises, that
the hidden aspects , sometimes hidden from one, may interfere with other’s, presumingly all trying to discount, or, give the benifit of doubt to, the other(s)
That said, the the ascertained levels of each individual may not be set, but may remain in suspended animation, a fluid dynamic of expectation, now this beyond mere body language, of how exactly to respond. I do not see, apart from body language, how expectation can be discounted from the interaction, because as soon as one word is uttered, the interpretive mind goes into drive, and tries to construct an appropriate response on the basis of
that.
My feeling is at this point, that that is not the 'kind' of expectation You are implying. Maybe it has to do with starting of with gross aggregates of minimum expectations, as You would from a common, or average man. Here is another problem.The minute a subscription to that is assumed, the averige man may feel slighted, condescended toward, or far worse. Such assumptions are difficult to make, for the other may feel more than average, and may feel it is common in the derogtory sense to make such an assumption.
Now my retort may have been a defensive move on my part to pre-empt any furtherance in this discussion, and may be making a mistake even as i am trying to communicate to You, hoping You have not expired yet, after Your first communication.
On that score i am hoping You are still well, and if You are not as of yet reading these lines, You may be very soon. My project is two fold regarding mind reading. First, noting Arcturus suggestion to be able to find a relaxed sense of peace, find clarity. The with a reasonable sense of that, to be able to differentiate the problem we are discussing, as one, which is in the realm of need, or one of want.
I assure You, it is not the latter, of which i am convinced. In light of that, mind reading has , at least for me, evolved to the third stage, even beyond finding meaning, between the lines, to receive meaning in extra-ordinary ways.
In a sense, i would like to resolve this issue of the secondary kind, but the hindrance is, that the third, seems to always have taken a center position for me.
It is very connected, almost to an ‘intrusion’ if i may call it that, but nowedays, it has been accepted as a ‘good thing’, a helpful ally, upon which a dare not depend, but has guided the enormity of unresolved secondary processes.
Detail would be futile at this point, and not even of much interest, however suffice it to say, that i have had times when i found myself in the position of trying (having to) integrate them. If this process fails, the reliance becomes on the highes function, it takes over as if by auto pilot, and since there is no basisfor it, it appears as a message. Not an auditory one, in my case, thank God, but an understanding, that it is coming from a synchronous source. If i were to try to remove this from any and all expectation, then i am positive, the 'system' would not allow it. There are no overrides.
I hope, that You only take relevant (to You) parts of my response to You as a useful part of the substance of what we are, and maybe shall be discussing in the future of this thread, notwhitstanding unnecessary or unessential parts.