Best friend who is also my roommate set me up with a friend of hers who treated me like a piece of poop. turns out he was in love with another girl and was kind of using me… after all this, she still went out and hung out with him afterward. i lost it and went off on her. cruel words were exchanged between us. lack of trust between us followed and it has been awkward and uncomfortable living quarters ever since.
sooo…i found another place. upon informming her of my moving out she tells me how sad she is that I am making such a poor choice. She informs me that she cares about me very much and that I am making a mistake by running away from our friendship instead of working on it. She says she has spent a life ending valuable relationships and regrets it.
Now i feel confused and sad. I dont know if I should move after all. or maybe i should. this sucks. help me.
Determine how genuine your roommate is about patching things up. Is she sincere, and not just guilt-tripping you into staying?
Is the relationship worth salvaging? (Do you guys have a lot of history? Is she a good person? Do you generally feel good about yourself when you’re around her?)
Don’t stay just because she wants you to. Make sure it’s going to be a good thing for you, too. If not, you should definitely move into the new place.
Instead of always placing the blame on others, maybe you should look at yourself. I say that gently. You have had bad luck with other people, not to say you are wrong, just that maybe you have a difficult time communicating with others because your expectations are too high.
Why would a blind date treat you like ‘poop’. Why would you blame your friend? It could have been a laughing matter when you and your friend arrived back home. everyone has a crazy blind date story. He may make a great guy friend for her, don’t blame her because he is not boyfriend material, and try not to take it so personal.
Lower your standands for others and you might laugh at life a little bit more. You are uptight Philosophy Girl, lighten up some.