If you want to be a psychologist, all you have to do is understand two things. What a person is trying to achieve with an action,… and then what they actually achieve. Then compare the two.
Almost all problems are self defeating patterens.
Then there’s the problems of people who have been burnt by others and become caloused. Forgiveness is one of the main keys there.
The last issue is the key factors of the soul in witch we all react to. Then how these factors are limited by mutated brains,… or maybe just stinking thinking. IE depression is a lack of hope, and no self respecting doctor will perscribe anti-depressants without counsoling into changing your thinking.
But then changing your thinking has it’s roots in religion. “An attitude of gratitude” can be found in the bible.
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The problem I see is doctors trying to make what’s socially acceptable have meaning. Is there such thing as a good divorce? Well some doctor will write a book on it. The problem is if you can have a relationship after a divorce, why can’t you still be married? Are they teaching tollerance of each other problems as long as you don’t have to live with them? Or maybe they’re forgetting that forgiveness is a key to getting past the blockers that make you “fall out of love”. I do agree that some people should never have been married though,… just not as often as society accepts.
This attitude will be the fall of america. Our morals are not chosen by a democracy,… like unreligious scientists claim.
And haven’t you ever had an amicable breakup with a girl/boyfriend? As technology increases, our degree of self-absorption rises with it. That’s why America is so fat. We’ve got all this good food around, may as well gorge ourselves. This produces a ‘me’-focused attitude that is not productive in a marraige.
It has nothing to do with a collapse of morals, it has everything to do with a collapse in self-discipline. People are getting married, but they continue to focus on themselves. That isn’t a bad thing, necessarily, but it does defeat the whole purpose of marraige.
But is that a bad thing? What’s the big deal about marraige? I rather like the institution myself, but blindly talking about a ‘collapse of morals’ does nothing to aid in its revitalization.
Mutual servitude is self-conflicting. It is either a union of equals, or there is a dominant and a submissive. As to your definition, I’m not sure I agree. Property (of which money is an expression) is a useful tool in social situations. And is money the number one cause, do you have stats to go with that?
Maybe are dirrect cause and effect of learning to be a good person comes from the most intimate relationships. Start removing maritial love, and remove our deepest factor in self examination,… 2 becomming 1. Do you plan on replacing this factor with psychology and laws? I believe that it is our nature to want to be married. To live outside our nature is to invite hardship. Or maybe they are already caloused from hard relationships and you want to keep them in this new rut.
No it is not. It’s called taking turns, or even better, utalizing the differences between men and women to play roles toward eachother. Yet psychology teaches that we need to be independent. Yet we are very dependent by nature.
Obviously your limited by your lack of imagination or your strict teachings from science.
A novelist of which I’m a fan said in his latest book that the sum total of psychology is the observation that if you think angry, anxious, depressed or confused thoughts that you are more likely to think them again in the future…
I’m not sure that he’s right, but it’s a sound point.
There is a small problem with the doctors deciding that what allows you to function in society is one of the factors determining if a behaviour is sane or not. On the other hand, in several cases now, DSM has come out and said such-and-such is sane, only to have the public create an uproar and DSM went and called the thing crazy again. After all, not all doctors are stupid people, they do seem to make some intelligent decisions.
But the other part of what makes something insane is if it is causing the person mental pain. Some folks say, “if you are going crazy/if you are crazy, you don’t know” Maybe that’s true sometimes, but many a time, it is quite obvious to us when we are having mental problems. For example, if I am hearing someone talk to me when I am home a lone, and particularly when I am taking a shower, and it scares the hell out of me, I know I am having a sanity problem. Same for hearing cats screaming at night, large beasts coming up the hall way. Also if I am flying into panic or am constantly being overcome with absurdity and everything and it’s meaning is falling apart, I know I am having a problem, I don’t need a doctor or society to tell me that. If my mind is getting so scattered I can’t read anymore, if my ideas are even becoming crazy to my self, if other people look at me like I’m nuts when I blurt out some strange religiousity at dinner in a restaurant, these things have nothing much to do with morals or what have you: I know I am loosing it, and I know I ought to make an appointment with a psychiatrist as soon as possible. This is not a hundred percent political/moral/social issue.
there is something wrong with doctors allowing acceptance in what is obviously wrong.
I can understand not attacking the situation at all. But to say that one thing is acceptable for reasons that are testable,… they lose site of reasons that are untestable.
IE the human soul is neither male nor female. It’s been proven that a man doesn’t have the brain waves of a women untell they take estrogine pills and testosterone blockers.
Soo… An obvious psychological benifit of marriage is that love between the sexes forces us to look beyond our differences and more into the soul. Homosexuals will become bias toward estrogine or testosterone. These differences will become second nature of their soul and will become the nature of how they act in their next life… Untill they learn differently from different experiances.