Can a man and a woman love each other without sexual tension? I am not talking brotherly-sis-type love. Is it possible to have a deep love for another of the opposite sex and rid yourself of the tension?
Also, is sexual tension physically driven? I have heard that humans are just like animals with the scent of each other - does anyone believe this? Or, do you think it is *horsepucky. Cologne is a relatively new phenomenon. Men and women used to get very lusty after smelling the true scent of each other.
*I am trying not to swear anymore, by golly, by gum. I blame it on random, foul-mouthed band guys.
How important is body language? How important are bodies at all? True love and adoration have nothing to do with bodies being sexual beings- I mean look at Christopher Reeve and his wife? A devotion and dedication like no other. Broken bodies still have “sex” and sensuality.
Are marriages made only with vows? Does a license have anything whatsoever to do with marriage? I know the religious here will talk of vows made in front of God, but what is more sacred? Heart lovers or vows made to God? Isn’t a “marriage” made between two souls who love each other? - to me this has nothing to do with written or spoken vows. I would need a daily vow and a weekly reception if that were the case.
Off the topic as always, but BACK ON… what IS sexual tension and can humans have a heart-lover without it? Is sexual tension built by words spoken or bodies that are in close proximity of one another? What do you think?
Un-satisfied want is “tension”, it is “suffering”. Reproduction is very evolutionarily important, so “nature” says: “FUCK-FUCK-FUCK-FUCK-FUCK!”, and then the idealist says: “I shall be pure, modest, calm, civilized, etc”.
We are animals, yes, just reflect upon what I’ve said above^.
If you wanted to know what “pure”/“true” love really is, you’d also have to upload into an android – then practice invinsible, practical, healthy and eternal social logic… but that can’t happen yet.
*I am trying not to swear anymore, by golly, by gum. I blame it on random, foul-mouthed band guys.
Generally, the buisiness transaction most important to “nature”, gets allot of attention. So then “love” from “God” is so “special”, etc… heh. I already understand why it’s not just skin deep. Much like human understanding and admiration of a mountain, forest or lake – we understand the symbolic and deeper meanings of things – though it is just a “feeling” instead of a word. The same applies to relationships. The same way you may feel–whilst looking at a “breath-taking” photo of our “beautiful” earth [from space]–you’d also feel when looking at or being next to your “lover”. Both of them are pathetic and small, but our sense of nature and value says the opposite.
I find myself protesting to nature all-too-often… But being a bitchy critic can be fun sometimes.
Don’t take me seriously now.
In a fiction I’d wrote long ago, there was a different philosophy attached to marriage [within that time and species]. This was just a minor detail within the story, but the idea was:
To view your “mate” as your absolute property; consider them an extention of your own body, much like an arm or a leg. Never hurt them, always nurish them, etc.
Marriages don’t work because humans are stupid and week. Marriages got legalized for social reasons. If people were strong enough then love could be easy or perfect in practice, and we would not need it. [not so needy & weak; not so insecure and imbalanced.]
I’d actually prefer if all threads became transhumanist arguments.
Dr.Morbid:
“Fuckbot, you’re overheating again! You need repairs every day!?”
Fuckbot:
“Must… ffffuuuck.”
“Sexual tension” is an inconvenient, high priority instinct; the “logic” of “nature”. Either get rid of the desire, or completely satisfy it = nomore “tension”. I’ve wrote before that sexual actios should be based on compassion. It’s like:
“Okay, you need that? I can help, just relax and tell me what you like most.”
^
& That kind of attitude would be a relief… but for how long? People get addicted, n then their heart “breaks” when they loose their walking crack factory, n they can’t get high anymore. It’s stupid, really! Nature is a stupid, fallable oxymoron. The only reason why nature got anywhere is because it had billions of years to “fuck-up” & then occationally “get it right” for a while.
Sad to say:
Bess, humans are robots who can’t handle–or are stressed by certain things, and antil we get genetically engineered, we wont be “free from” [powerful enough to handle] certian situations in life.
“Sexual tension” is “built by” the fact that you are alive and human–at the same time.
Sexual tension vs. sexual desire. There is no tension if your needs are met - or is that true? I am married but have had three separate relationships (friends only) where the sexual tension was completely undeniable - and almost irresistable. You can feel it when you walk into the room. There could be 10 other men in the room, but there is a certain something. What is it? It is more than attraction. Many times, I could actually be more physically attracted to another man altogether, but believe me, the sexual tension is unmistakable when it is there…
Ex-es are particularly weird with this because of the body memory ( if you will) but the sexual tension isn’t nearly as great. And I didn’t want to beat this to death here, but what about the internet?. Men and women fall in love all the time - get married, nothing but a photo but they have shared more than a little sexual tension - with no bodies attached. Just words of love. Affairs of the heart.
How about after 3 hours of lovemaking - I mean where is the tension after that? Bodies are just bodies… the best sex is in your head anyway and the best orgasms can be by yourself while dreaming of someone you desire. Many men are not exactly intune with womens’ bodies anyway - hey that would make a great thread, wouldn’t it? Bessy does sex therapy for clueless men.
I did have several different questions posed, but my main question is about the sexual tension one feels and why is it that it is overwhelmingly strong with certain people and with others - nothing. It is more than physical attraction… and it is not all about procreation and is not just F-F-F FU*king; there is something more to it… like your body/subconscious mind/soul knows what it wants even when your sentient self does not; do I dare say…
Can anyone relate to anyone without some kind of tension?
A relationship begins in reference to the self.
One either recognizes ones self in the other or one recognizes an ideal self in the other.
It is followed by disillusionment, where one or both sides fail to adhere to the recognition or fail to live up to the ideal.
What follows is either a settling, for various reasons, or a break-up.
All relationships are based on reciprocity.
When the reciprocity fails or becomes unbalanced or is made obsolete due to changing needs, the relationship becomes tense.
The original tension is the anxiety produced due to the uncertainty and the flirtatious negotiation of reciprocity.
