I need some advice on women.
I met a girl at the pub a couple weekends ago. We started flirting and everything about her was perfect. She’s 42, I’m 39, she’s a mother of 3 (two are grown up, the other is 13), I’m a father of 2 (5 and 7), she’s single, I’m single, she likes techno, I like hardcore techno/industrial, she doesn’t mind indulging in the occasional (eh-hem) substance, I don’t either, and she’s all round quirky and kinda socially awkward, like me. She’s also very cute (inside and out). She’s like a little kid. While most women will carry their purse out to a club or a bar, she has a little back pack. Just this weekend I met her again and she was wearing sort of a jean skirt/overalls sorta thing like this:
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Something like a little kid would wear. All that’s missing is the little propeller hat.
She’s also got a thick German accent. We’ve texted each other and she always says “Ja” ← again, cute.
On top of that, she’s blond!!! (I’ve always wanted a blond).
I really like her so far (it’s too early to tell and I’m probably projecting a lot, but so far so good).
So we flirted and danced the first night, did a couple yagger shots, but then I left. I didn’t think anything was going to happen, so I just left.
Then on Sunday, she texted me (we were talking about a song and I asked her to text it to me, hence she had my phone number). She just wanted to say hi and what’s up. She said she was looking for me after I left. We started talking about stuff. She said I could text her any time. She said that the next time I go out to the pub to let her know and she’ll join me.
This really shocked me because it actually seemed like she was interested me. I figured maybe there’s a chance something might happen.
So just this Thursday, I texted her saying I’d be at the pub tomorrow night. She said sorry but she made other plans. She suggested we get together during the week sometime. I said sure.
On Friday, I went to the pub anyway, not expecting to see her. But I walk in and there she was with her friend who we will call Lady Gaga (Lady Gaga’s another local at the pub–nice girl). But they both seemed a little less than happy. Something was bugging Gaga (she didn’t say what) and Gwyneth Paltrow (that’s the girl) had a cold. We played a game of pool together (we kicked ass), sat down around the table, had a drink (I don’t think Gwyn was drinking though), and then she left. I texted her and asked where she went. She said she “needed her time”.
So this morning I texted her, told her I was glad she came out. I told her I’d like to see her again. She was receptive and everything, but now she’s acting kind of stand-off-ish, like she’s no longer interested. When I asked her if she was still on for a couple drinks during the week, she said:
“I don’t really know, but I’ll give you a chance to get to know you better. Maybe we can go for a coffee and have a walk and talk. How 'bout that?” ← I’m paraphrasing so as not to post the exact text which I don’t think she’d appreciate.
What does “give you a chance” mean? (that part’s actually verbatim). To me it sounds like: I’m not interested but maybe you can convince me otherwise.
Before my ex and I met each other (we’re separated now), this was always the way it was with girls. They start off expressing some interest in me, but then I approach them, and they back off and start acting like they’re not interested at all.
I can’t tell the difference between being shy and being disgusted. Is this a game girls play? I hate playing games. Do they show interest just so they can play me for a fool? Like, watch, I’ll get this guy to approach me, then I’ll shoot him down, and we can all have a good laugh behind his back.
But anyway, at the end of the night, I had a chat with Gaga. She thought I was a good guy and that I would be good for Gwyn. She said not to stop trying. She said Gwyn was being stupid about this. I asked her to put in a good word for me, and she said she would.
Anyway, girls, what’s with the mixed messages?
Meow!