Most women have a Daddy figure- their Daddy. There really are not/have not been enough women in this world with an agonizing lack of a father figure in their lives for a major world religion to have been shaped by them. If a religion did arise because people were lacking paternal stability in their lives, one would expect it to begin in African American urban culture, not among patriarchal Jews.
Men want sex; women want security. God might be man, woman and child, not a he. In olden times such masculine words as “mankind” and “he” were used to describe all humans. This use of words still remains in the average vocabulary despite the women’s liberation movement. History was written by men. Maybe herstory remains to be told. It is not a daddy issue. The woman who told you God is a he is living in the past. Let her have whatever makes her able to cope in this mad world.