I have this…friend…and um…
She has been dating a guy for a little less than a year and he has announced that he “just really needs to take a break.”
When a guy says this, it means break up right? Because when my friend pleaded for him to stay with her he wasnt having it and it just kinda all sounded like
they were probably never going to be together again…???
That’s what I told my ex when I waanted to sleep with other women. So yep, it’s BREKAUP TIME!!! It’s a really fun time.
Yeah, hate to agree with RU’s latest incarnation, but he’s right. You don’t take breaks from things you like.
Anyway, been a while PG, how’ve you been…?
at the moment…crappy. …but he did say that he didnt want to date any other girls and that it wasnt about that.
Look, if it makes you feel better, or your friend, the guy sounds like a bit of a wimp anyway. If you’re gonna break up with someone you say: “I want to break up, because of reasons A, B & C. Sorry, but there you go.” The “ooh I just need like er, some space to er, grow, so hmm, we should take a break for a while” is just utter gayness. Find a picture of him, get it printed up as toilet-paper and use it accordingly.
A little more communication between those two should do wonders. None of us have any idea really.
“Better alone than in bad company”…
It is pretty much over. The relationship was so unfulfilling that he is willing to forgo sure-pussy to have peace and quiet. You gotta understand that for men pussy is a “good-in-itself”, even when bad. That the guy was willing to give that up, to me, shows that he could not stand the farce of a relationship (and not all rellationships are, but some become farces kept along by the presence of pussy) even if that meant going “solo” for a while.
Where they compatible? Maybe he grew tired of her? Not because of her specifically, but perhaps because he grew accustomes and…bored. As far as his claim that he is not going to see other girls, maybe he is just trying to spare her feelings, and if he said it to you, to keep you from saying the truth to her. At least in that sense he has consideration for her. But it is a matter of opportunity and nothing more. Once he gets a chance to bag pussy, he will. It will probably mean nothing for him except sex and so he says, with a clear conscience that he is not going to “see” (read: steadly see) other girls.
I’ve never really got this ‘taking a break concept’. I have a bad feeling that it was invented by American sitcoms and then latched on to by women’s magazines and agaony aunt columns until somehow everybody under the age of thirty simply assumed it was a normal thing to do. I can recall no reference to it in anything that predates these. Plus, I’m not sure the concept really makes a lot of sense. What does it mean? Will you still be friends but not sleep with each other? Or just not talk to each other at all for a few months? Either of these would surely be pretty awkward? Does anyone know enough about this whole concept (I think you’d probably have to watch every season of Friends to find out, or else I’m sure woman’s weekly has covered it somewhere).
To be honest, if someone said to me they ‘wanted to take a break’, the alarm bells would start ringing that I appear to be in love with someone who bases his desicion making on mysteriously shallow pop culture references - which shows altogether a lack of honesty about thier own feelings (because real feelings never resemble the polished cliches we see on the box).
Obviously, this is probably why I don’t actually have a boyfriend. But seriously, start moving on. Like Tab says, you don’t take breaks from things you think are good for you.
It means he’s feeling trapped. He needs a release. If he’s lying about his intentions, then yeah it means it’s over. If not, he’s kidding himself into thinking a temporary release is all he needs - which it won’t be.