Who am I to you?

Who am I?

  • Some guy I know nothing about
  • Somebody who I read all the time but don’t have any idea what they’re about
  • Some guy
  • My Hero
  • Somebody who is somewhat interesting
  • Somebody who I despise
  • Somebody who offers nothing interesting
  • Somebody who posts interesting things whenever I see his posts
  • Somebody I am terrified of
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I see alot of posters, posting things on topics that seem more intrapersonal than anything. Gossiping about other people on the boards or other boards. I’ve been here for 7 years and can say I don’t recall getting personal with anyone on here. Am I missing out on something? How can I be so oblivious to the more intimate relationships occurring on ILP? Is there something I’m not reading? The only instances that come close is when I’m in some disagreement with a poster on a variety of subjects and I get to know just how screwed up they are. So it seems like my methods here are… odd? Or am I just not realizing the plethora of other unpersonable people similar to myself on here that do not engage in the “online friendship” or, animosity, of getting more personal with the other board members? Just curious as to what others think of me not only on this topic but I suppose all the way around. Am I odd? Am I doing something right? Am I wrong? Am I a nutball, or am I on point?

The reason I ask the latter questions above are not so much of course to gauge who I am, but I suppose who the masses here are… if I could even get enough responses to do that.

Though I haven’t read too much of Your writing, You seem interesting enough. How are You doing nowadays?

I’m the same way man; just as oblivious. I’ve just never gotten emotionally involved with anyone here I guess. I’ve made some friends, and probably some enemies, but the most personal I’ve ever gotten with anyone here is maybe a handful of brief conversations via PM. In any case, I just never really came here looking to establish a social circle.

Who are you again?

Ah, I suppose I don’t post a whole lot anymore. I am doing good really, have a son that’s turned one today. Looking forward to build a lego dinosaur headquarters tonight with my 8 year old daughter, and prepping for the birthday party this weekend. A hell of a storm passed through last night kept me up a little because of the wind but I’m doing ok this morning. It’s been 10 years on my job now and its a pretty easy going time of year right now for us so I have time to chat with you fine folks a little more. At work yesterday I caused 3 hours of turmoil by introducing the Monty Hall problem to everyone…

Very good indeed I haven’t realized you were around as long as me either…

WW_III_ANGRY

To answer your question, I don’t know how to answer your question. Who are you to me? I would have to say a human being who I know not much about, if even that much. I can’t recall ever responding to a post of yours.

Humans are social creatures. Gossiping is also a way to socialize although when it’s done maliciously and without discernment, it’s not socializing - it’s the hyena eat hyena in the jungle.

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Well, that’s not a good or a bad thing. It’s just the way you roll - it’s just the way things have happened or not. Some in here enjoy inter-personal relationships, more human intimacy than others - perhaps that they cannot get out there in the real world, though in a sense this too is the real world. Perhaps you are more than satisifed with the human intimacies and friendships which you have off-line. There are people who can embrace more human beings than can others. Perhaps you’re simply one of the latter kind.

Do you feel that you are missing out on something? Who can answer that question for you. Anyone who attempts to would simply be basing their answer on their experience here, on their needs, disappointments, et cetera.
But who knows? Perhaps you’re beginning to question yourself about it - otherwise, why come in and pose the question at all.

Obviously, you are not that much so or how could you be answering that question? But perhaps the answer to the question is that they don’t appeal to you, they are not what adds value to your life. Your curiosities run in other circles. Your off-line life is healthy and satisfying and rich in love.

lol I’m sure that there is a lot that you’re not reading.

:laughing: Aside from that, do you see anything else about them? Define “screwed up” and give an example? Which begs the question: Why do you call yourself ANGRY?

But what ARE your methods? Do you mean your method of being impersonal or something else?

Sometimes you can guage this and sometimes you can’t. A kind of inter-personal relationship with certain people in here can be both enriching and satisfying to some of us. I would imagine that it is quite possible, probable that there are members here who do not interact socially, that kind of socially, with others in here. But how could you actually gauge those who do but are not so blatant about it - those who simply enjoy a kind of friendship with some others in here without going overboard or becoming needy? Sometimes walking the middle path can be more enriching and lasting too.

I don’t have enough information to anwer this question. I am more curious about why you think you have come to ask these questions of us at all? I certainly don’t think you’re doing anything wrong at least not insofar as this thread goes.
Perhaps you’re just trying to expand your horizons, become more sociable. Maybe you’re having a growth spurt.

Ah, I notice we use the same word “gauge” here. lol
As for the last, I think you would have to take your time there. I might attempt to give you my own version of ilp but I will refrain from doing that. And let’s not forget that no man walks into the same river twice. Find it out for yourself, come to your own conclusion. We are not, all of us, after all, peas of the same pod. We also are in flux and a process. Perhaps you yourself are experiencing flux and a bit of a ongoing process.
Actually, it is possible that in gauging who WE ARE you might come to discover a bit more about yourself.

And Who Am I to You? lol You needn’t answer that since you know so little too. :mrgreen: