If you ever feel like there are things about you that no one else can relate to, that’s who you are.
But you are also the things (about you) that other people can relate to, and/or the things (about other people) that you can relate to. As long as you have your own reasons for why it’s relatable to you, having something in common with someone else doesn’t mark you as inauthentic. But if you say no (or yes) to those things when others don’t, that (saying no/yes) is you more than it is others.
If you can’t figure out where you got it from and you don’t observe it in anyone around you, it’s you.
Or it’s in your genes.
Or … ____.
Friendship is seeing the same thing about yourself in someone else (that you don’t often see in others), and being okay with it, or at least accepting it.
That is not necessarily so, Ichthus. It may just be that someone has not yet met those people who are willing to understand and to accept him or her - and also say: "Hey, that is me too! I am just like that.
It may also mean that a person is not at the point in their own life where they can accept and understand who they themselves are.
It may have more to do with someone lacking confidence in their self or having low self-esteem.
I think that having that kind of attitude/perspective can put one into a very lonely atmosphere.
That’s very well-said, and I agree… for me, it’s not so much about being the same as our peers/others, as it is about understanding the/each other(s) and respecting others’ boundaries.
I agree, MagsJ. I’m sure Arc does, too. I think we’re all saying the same thing from different angles.
Arc thinks it is important to recognize sameness, and I agree. You think it is important to recognize otherness (boundaries), and I agree. I doubt Arc would disagree with that.
Sameness doesn’t mean “not an individual”. Just like God being sui generis (Original) doesn’t rule us out as being made in his image: able to treat each other as a self, and respect each self’s otherness (boundaries).
It also means to care about one’s self - one’s mind, body, emotions, spirit in a way which does no harm but rather protects and makes one’s life well worth the living - just as we would want to do for others or someone who we value and esteem.
The opposite end of that pole would be ego and arrogance.
That is a good question, MagsJ.
It is a journey and a process so hopefully at some point in time it will resonate, maybe with a shiver up and down the spine lol when the signal is meant to be “picked up”.
May the LORD bless you and keep you;
May the LORD make his face to shine on you and be so, so gracious to you;
May the LORD lift His countenance toward you and give you His perfect peace.