example, the gothic kids and jocks… why do they exclude each other? and this one thing, i’ve seen it happen so much. let’s say, you listen to hardcore music, your categorized as a “hardcore kid” but then your interest in hardcore music fades and then completely dies, your no longer a “hardcore kid” and your friends that are also “hardcore kids” no longer accept you as a friend because you don’t listen to that type of music anymore. why makes us do this?
for short, all i’m asking is why do some images of people exclude other images of people? alot of us judge by appearence, not by what’s inside. how come? there could be so many friendships in this world that we wouldn’t think possible because of appearences. thanks
people choose their identity in order to portary themselves from inside out?.. … …
Or just to get the attention they desire. A goth may desire no attention from jocks. A hoe will dress and act sexual in order to get sexual attention over other types of attention. People seem to mimic the things they want, or see themselves getting.
Self esteam comes from attention and acceptance,… then love and friends and family. And where you get them. If your a peaople pleaser,… then you will never be happy. You must find acceptance in yourself and what you do. Then find other who enjoy doing the same things. Shallow and empty people are limited to social talking and sex,… and the looks and dress that gets them there. They are more likely to be threatened by others who would steal a little bit of their hollow glorry.
I like the idea, “All you are is what you do,… everything else is just circumstancual.” We all get sex,… so to judge people sexually primarrily is illogical. Maybe we just need better books on how to’s for this area.
People that do drugs are unsaticfied with a life without drugs. Maybe a reflection in what type of person they really are. Yet image goes so much further in pop culture.
bullies will tear others down to raise themselves up artificially.
Imagine two people with the same self esteem level. One looks at the other and says to himself ,“why isn’t this working, well at least I’m not him.” Then precedes to tell the victim what he hates. The victims self esteem falls, while the bullies stays the same. Allowing the bullies to assume he’s really lifted himself above those he tries to tear down. Yet he never really achieve this, so the bully does it again and again.
This repeated behavior creates a level of frustration. And becomes a self defeating cycle,… until they learn past it. If the bully was truly happy with themselves,… they probably wouldn’t care to even acknowledge others he don’t like… Or even more applicable. If the bully was truly happy (attention, acceptance, and loved) then they’d want to spread what they already have.
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It’s amazing that the same technic of a bully has been presented on some news show. Some half-wack teaches a getting girls seminar by poking fun at their self esteem. This makes the girl realize that they probably can’t do much better and settle.
Yet this technick is only possiable because her self esteam is placed in the types of guys she lays. Or her looks.
I realised what I don’t like about the models of sexuality presented by TV. A girl was quoted as saying, “All these people staring at mt butt,… It just gets me so excited.” What is wrong with a women who likes many strangers getting her off. It’s a sign of self absorbsion and floatyness. Easy come easy go type of hoe. I guess it comes from how people mark their self-esteam, and what they get from life.
All these relationships that start from people feeling eachother up on the dance floor, don’t last. HMMM. could it be because they were drunk and attracted to an image.
All you are is what you do. We all get sex out of love. Why do we have to bend our personal philosophies around hypocritical phiosophies made from desires to get more then we are worth. It’s a lie to ourselves. One that will build up the negative side effects in a subliminal way.