Would you want someone to have expectations for you that are higher than you can accomplish? It wouldn’t be very personable of them to do that, would it? You would only want them to have expectations of you that you can actually meet (provided you follow certain steps that make you able to do that). You should do the same for others.
Personhood is a basic awareness of your own being in relation to other persons. The reality of personhood does not change with the level of intelligence.
If someone with the capacity for personhood is not self-aware, someone has not treated them as a person yet.
Makes you wonder how self-awareness or personhood ever kicked off. … and how the capacity got into the material. There must be an eternal personhood who can configure material with said capacity.
The original personhood’s requirement of us (our design) is that we be unconditionally merciful (impassibly compassionate) in their image. Drove Nietzsche absolutely mad.