First, of course, since this thread exists as a result of an exchange between Maia and myself here…
ilovephilosophy.com/viewtopic.p … 1&start=50
…my focus will be on heterosexual relationships.
But it could just as easily be applicable to LGBTQ exchanges here as well.
How to broach this…
While basically just speculation and conjecture on my part, I suggested to Maia that, by and large, Urwrong and Satyr/lorikeet were telling her what she wanted to hear because as Maia succinctly put it…
Now, this part…
“I think you are trying to imply that those two individuals are somehow competing with each other to win my affection and/or romantic interest…”
I think is true.
That’s why even though in some important respects, they do not share her own spiritual/religious narrative/agenda, they generally avoid going there in order to “woo” her.
Though, again, admittedly, I am merely proposing my own wholly subjective intertwining of an educated guess and a wild-ass guess here. Just as I am not in possession of the machine that would allow me to be inside Maia, it’s the same with them. It’s mostly just supposition, surmising and guesswork. Extrapolation by and large.
As for this part…
“…to embarrass them into not talking to me.”
…nope, not to the best of my own knowledge about myself. If I want to discourage them from exchanges with Maia, it would probably be in relationship to the very real existence of “stalking” in this, at times, fucked-up machismo world.
But: I am not accusing either of them of this. I’m merely reacting subjectively to their exchanges with her.
Besides, as she has pointed out a number of times, she is more than capable of dealing with this sort of thing herself. Again, all I can do is to go back to what she related to me in regard to Urwrong/Adam. And to Satyr/lorikeet’s own dogmatic – reactionary? – assumptions regarding male/female relationships.
Anyway, what this thread is mostly all about is the reality of male/female exchanges in philosophy venues. And how the part where an exchange of ideas can also become entangled in an exchange of other things as well.
Here there are my own experiences over the years. How about yours?
Edify us.