I’ve referred to it here but never have I typed it out, it’s just in my videos… I wanted to change that, and post a summary of it here.
The 5 Stages that a Sex dimorphic species must traverse to not contradict itself.
In a sex dimorphic species, one sex is larger and more threatening than the other gender.
If it’s not the individual, it is the whole… a 5 foot man approaching a 7 foot women is still more threatening (his other friends), because the sum total of men are stronger and more threatening. If for some bizarre reason, men and women decided to go to combat against each other, men would kill all the women, they would win that war.
Because of this phenomenon, when men approach women with the same approach a women can use for a man, the women will show more discomfort than the man will, from minute discomfort, to extreme discomfort. Where a man may look in disgust and say “go away”, the women will call the police, or get a bunch of her male friends to get the guy off her. For the same approach women are always more uncomfortable than a male.
What this means as a whole, is that women have a “no” for first approaches. This may not be true of all women, this discomfort for being approached, but, since this is so extremely rare, this forces the man to play mind reading games about female consent, which can lead to very dangerous situations.
So the rule, is “No” for all first approaches from a male to a female.
This rule also applies to all children, as they are dimorphic as well, compared to adults. It’s a “no” for first approaches.
But it’s not only the first approach that matters. It is the escalation that matters as well. If a women turns to you and smiles and holds your hand for the first time in an intimate way. Leaning over to kiss her, is an escalation of first approach. This is also mind reading, “the vibe”… every stalker on earth or inappropriate person is feeling “the vibe”. Vibe is almost universally abused, as a mind reading game, and is not an excuse for escalation.
The problem here is that any behavior that is ornamental or escalative from the male side, is already turning a “no” into a “I don’t care about the no”. If an escalation is used and it turns into something more, then the female is sending the signal to the entire species, that “no means yes”
This is where the first stage comes in:
Everyone who has violated the 5,5,3 rule, needs to split up, or never make sexual contact until the 5 stages of a sex dimorphic species are cycled through. Otherwise it’s just a “no means yes” relationship.
The second stage is to create intentional communities of about 1000 to 3000 people to work on the other stages.
First approaches must be 100% from the female side. This means NO ornate male behavior.
Sex distribution ratios need to be equalized between the sexes. The largest aggravation on the male side is that women are only having sex without about 2% of the male population before they settle down with somebody. For men, it is non consensual that women even have sex with men, but it’s vastly more non consensual to men that only 2% of men get almost all the sexual contact with women.
The next stage is that the sexes can start to approach at a 50% to 50% ratio, with males only using direct approaches and not ornamental approaches. Now this entire time, females can use ornamentation and homosexuals can as well.
The 5th and final stage is now that the species has been made aware of the damage of “no means yes” for all heterosexual bondings, males can finally start to use ornamental behavior again.
The problem with the subconscious being aware that all sexual encounters are rape “no means yes” is that men take it out on women, society, other men and the environment at large.
If everyone is trained to use better communication for better outcomes sexually as a global community of intentional communities, then we can expect nothing less than better outcomes in all areas of our lives here.
The 5 heartbreaks of relationship
1.) If you’ve ever been hurt by not being in a situation that someone else is, when you get to that point and it hurts someone else, somewhere in the back of your mind is a self hatred for doing to others what hurt you.
2.) If someone is attracted to a person you are with, it may make you feel superior, however, the idea that the person you are with would be with them the way you’re with the person your with, causes fear , defensiveness and anger. The anger is actually at yourself. The reason it’s at yourself is because you share the attraction to one person in common with them, to be angry at them for being with the person you’re with, is the same as being angry at yourself for being with the person you’re with. This causes self hatred. This is avoided if people follow the step of evening out the distribution ratios between the sexes.
3.) Depending upon the person, millions if not billions of people could be equally or more compatible in an exciting and different way than the person you are with. One love does not outweigh millions if not billions of heartbreaks in terms of the loss
4.) I call this is commiseration heartbreak. When we love something or someone, we are compelled to share it without harm, so that we can commiserate with others in a bonding way about that love.
Hoarding a relationship, doesn’t allow for this bonding to occur. And causes the 4th heartbreak of relationship.
5.) The fifth heartbreak is that you don’t have relationship in the way you desire.
The three objectifications:
Large Penis
Tall
Money
The three abuses:
1.) proclivity to marry (slave/master/zero sum/victor mentality)
2.) sexual jealousy (if a woman has sex with another man, she will leave you if you’re not angry at her or the man she slept with) (conditions men to be sexually jealous)
3.) approach escalation: Women have said no to all escalations - so any escalation that turned into relationship is a no means yes relationship.