Abortion

[Hellina_Handbasket]

ok, i have to keep this short ( i am supposed to be working away on an assignment on Rousseau for political science)

Let me tell you this- I have NEVER EVER begged a guy to not wear a condom, but i have been in the reverse of the situation many times. Now the old proverb ‘no glove no love’ is one that i have lived by since i became sexually active, but it is one that sadly, most guys i know do not. Apart from the danger of STDS, this is something that i think is an issue.

Sad fact number one- girls are taught both through television media and teenage magazines some pretty horrific things about sex. For example, my australian and english companions in the forum will probably be aware of the AUssie TV show neighbours. My ex-flat mates loved neighbours and one day i came out while they were watching it. I was HORRIFED at what i was seeing portrayed on that show. We had a teenage couple- the girl was still a virgin, and her boyfriend wanted her to have sex with him. She declined, he gave the “i’ll wait for you to be ready” speech and then promptly had an affair. Now, this tv show has a predominately Teenaged-girl audience. The ONLY message that one can get out of this, is that if you dont have sex with your boyfriend, your going to upset him. WHat’ll he do while he’s upset? he’ll sleep around- hurt you. why you had just better do what he wants because otherwise you’ll end up alone (and sexless i guess) FOREVER!!!

combine stuff like this with some of the things i have had tried on me… “its heaps better without a condom” “its more for you than for me…”. Now when a teenage (as this is primarily the group most at risk from this kind of thing) girl has already been Prepared (watch a britney spears film clip to see just how well we prepare our little girls to become sex kittens) to be sexually passive through such negative re-enforcements that i mentioned earlier she really is at risk of letting things happen to her. Whose fault is this? Everyones i’d say- parents, TV, girl-magizines, popstars, society- We (as a whole) have started letting these kids grow up WAY too fast.

However, i dont think its fair that we live in this sexually-liberated society in which everyone is happy to experiment in (mind you, men have been sexually liberated since the dawn of time) , When its become obvious that Only women have the responsiblity of the consequences. Men are cowards. Only the brave few stay to face the music- the rest wold rather keep on that already exisiting pattern- SPREAD MY SEED AS FAR AND WIDE AS I CAN. Im not saying that this is the objective of men, but its a deffinate consequence. If men cant face the problem that they’ve got themselves into, i dont realy think that men have any right what so ever to be involved with the abortion debate.

It takes two to tango folkeroonies. Maybe the BEST way to solve the problem would be to genetically create a consequence for men, give THEM an incentive to think before the act, that way we both can have the responsibility of the responsiblity of our actions. Thats the only way we might get somewhere here. Untill then, it looks like us women (sigh) still have to deal with the consequence of two peoples actions. When will women have to stop doing this? I dont know- but it would be nice if it was SOON!!

[Pax_Vitae]

@SliverDragon

Untill then, it looks like us women (sigh) still have to deal with the consequence of two peoples actions.

Life is unfair, the soon your realise this, the soon you can get over it!

[Amaelamin]

i think that in MY state now- where i am in my life journey, means that if i got pregnant i would HAVE to have an abortion- and i believe that it is more for the child than me (of course it does benefit me, but i think thats secondary)

First of all, How on Earth would this benefit the child? If you suddenly lost your income and you were incapable of caring for yourself do you think you would really benefit from dying?

To get to the main point, the whole abortion issue is to scare people away from having sex and to prevent them from having “too much” fun.

I dont now how this theory is derived but it is most certainly on the wrong page. I highly doubt when politicians sit down they say…“Right look people are having way too much fun, I reckon we make them suffer by taking away their right to have an abortion so they are terribly miserable due to the fact that they’ll actually have to face the consequences of too much fun. And of course to make them severly miserable we’ll have to make them turn to celibacy…all in favour?” I mean come on where is the logic in that? And where on Earth do we get the theory you can only be happy by having sex? What meaningless life if that is the only way you can have fun! Excuse me but whatever happened to the Footy with friends or spin the bottle? Not to mention family time. Further more this sexual happiness will only last so long…like…until you catch HIV, Syphillis, Hepetitus A-B and C, Herpes and AIDS…then wheres all that fun gone to?

What about teen pregnancies? These young people generally quit school to carry to term or look after the resulting baby.

Well now here is a logical statement. And one I can answer from a teenage perspective. I’m sixteen years old and I’m female and i believe women do have a right to choose but the question is when you get to make the choice! Its not “Oh Darn! I’m pregnant do i have an abortion or not?” Its “Lets see, do i have sex or not? Hmmm…if the ‘protection’ doesnt work can i face the consequences?” If your not ready to take responsibility for your actions then you dont do them. If you dont want to get pregnant DONT have sex! Besides sex is a sacred thing that should be saved for marriage anyway…in which covenant you would generally be prepared for children.

And to conclude…children of Rape…well i guess this one is a terribly touchy issue. I do believe abortion is wrong but i do know it is not necessary to abort an unwanted baby…as hard as i know it would be i believe it would be best to carry the pregnancy through and give the child up for adoption.