the most important thing to wear is a smile
-Imp
Er-- I dont understand…what do you mean outta your league? And why are you playing in the road?
What makes this next time special? Haven’t you been to church and seen him before? If so, then you’ve already made your first impression. If not, why the hell are you interested in him? Wear whatever you think is fit to wear at a church. This is a church you’re going to meet him at, isn’t it? Wear jeans and a sweater, if that’s what you wear at church. Wear a black dress, if that’s what you wear at church. If he’s really the right guy, he’s probably been staring at you since before you noticed him.
Smell if you look decent. Do not if you look tarty. This is not about facial manoever. This is about self overcoming.
PG, post some photos in which you dress different suites. Then give us an vote array. Simplest way.
You never posted photos, but you always talk about fleshy and flashy things. Why is that?
The photothread has been dead for ages since all the beauties left. You revive it, PG, you bring us back the best of ILP.
Anyway. The principle of dressing is perspectivist, of course. A good reason to start reading Nietzsche already. Trust me, the application of philosophy is rewarding. Perspectivism can transform the art of fashion thoroughly. I already have a few ideas. One day if you see a brand in high streats named like UniqorivalilochakovA, you know the etymology.
And yeah, what’s with the playing in the road thing, faust?
I’m not sure fishnet stockings are appropriate for church. At least if you’re Catholic. If you’re not, go ahead and wear the fishnet & minidress- you’re going to hell anyway.
I like to see a girl who dresses tastefully (fishnets are ugly and slutty) but still gives me the impression that she has a figure. The right t-shirt and jeans on a slim cute girl will attract me no problem.
But I like faust’s advice the best; dress in a way that makes you like the way you look. Then you’ll be more likely to have the confidence and smile, which are AT LEAST as important as your overall appearance and definitely more important than your clothes.
It was a New York ‘shut uuuuup’, which is a regional version of the more widespread ‘really?’ that is asked completely unliterally. It’s basically just a prop in a conversation, used to buy time or simply to ensure that the to and fro rhythm is maintained. I saw it on ‘Friends’ last night.
I care a lot more about how someone feels to hug, cuddle, sleep with than I do with which particularly magazine look they like to imitate. That is to say, ‘looks’ are important, but I’m less interested in visuals than the tactile. Admittedly, I’m something of an exception in this regard and most young males aren’t like this.
Mind - not so sure. How someone speaks is of great importance to me. If they can make me laugh, pose a question that I’d not thought about a million times before, give me some information that I wouldn’t otherwise know, ask of me something I don’t ask of myself, then they are a lot more likely to leave a lasting impression on me. In this regard, I’m not an exception in any way, shape or form.
So, to summarise, think more about what you can offer this guy that other people cannot in terms of your character, and dress in a way that makes you feel good.
B, every time. But pick one of your favourite sweaters.
E, every time. Dunno what it means, since I’m not gay and therefore am not a male hairdresser.
PhilosophyGirl,
um, you could consider talking to him. That has a tendency to get one’s attention.
…and to those trying to work out the “shut uuup” cunundrum, it’s not a time buying device, but rather a statement of shock or disbelief; as in, ‘NO WAY (this is not classified as a blatant refusal)’ or ‘GET OUT (not a resquest to leave)’ … merely figures of speech.
Soomebody deleted a post here… censorship! (self-censorship?)
Post was mine. No, I didn’t delete it, and I suspect no one else did either. Seems to be something that just happens from time to time. Oh well.
That got my attention, Day. I take back everything I have said.
This sounds kinda forced…
I didn’t delete it. I wished I had saved it.
You didn’t delete it, but you wish you had not deleted it? 
No, I wish I had saved it to my hard drive.
Well what do I say to him? If I ask him out he’ll be disinterested and think I’m forward. Would slipping him a note be lame or cute? Then again I could have someone else ask him for me. Or then I could play the waiting game in which case it might take him forever to do anything IF he ever does…
May I give you a tip? Men love it when you go after them. Who wrote that book anyway that we women have to wait for them? I married a man that way…
Walk up to him and ask him for a favor. Any favor will do. It will break the ice… and the rest will be history.
Wear your nice jeans… probably leave your hair down - most men don’t like makeup, so be natural (I have sons and that is what they tell me anyway).
If he seems interested and doesn’t ask you out - you invite him for coffee the next day. Never give up. Men love it when you love them … they are no different than we are…
This is easy. When the church band kicks it into high gear you go over to him and say “Do you want to dance?”
If he says no, you say “Huh? I said you look fat in those pants”
You then walk away…and your ego is intact.
Also - look him in the eyes. Linger there 3 seconds longer than you are comfortable… The eyes will tell him everything you want him to know.
Bessy - the master. 