Believe me, if any woman went near my earlobes without my permission then she’d be on the receiving end of a serious beating. There’s such a thing as privacy for a good reason…
I think you’re spoiled.
I think that my pseudonym is better than yours, what’s new?
Well, one of us is correct.
Which one?
Philosophy Girl, don’t present yourself in any way unusual. He will eventually find out what you truly look like anyway and then he will make a decision to stay or not. Simply present yourself as you normally would, as that is a reflection of who you truly are, and it will likely save you grief in the long run.
Should you two have a conversation, simply be yourself. If he truly sees you for who you are, then he can connect with you. If he doesn’t see you, you’re likely not right for him at the moment. If he sees you and you connect in a conversation, just let it flow both ways, and, be emotionally honest.
Everything that happens after that will be real, and, as it should be.
Ultimately, if you are truly where you belong, you will eventually meet someone who belongs with you … for a time.
Who is myself? Who am I? These are the confounding questions.
The better you know the answer, the greater your chance of being where you belong and the greater the chance you have of connecting with someone who belongs with you for the pleasant longer moment.
Does philosophy help you to that end?
But the answer is purely of your own creation; there’s no true identity nestled away under your skin for you to find, you make your own identity.
All I know is that “…I got some advice about wearing fishnet stockings…” fishnet stockings are freakin’ hot. Oh memories memories… Except well, that says basicly only one of two things: I have a bf and I’m going to F the St out of him tonight, or, I don’t have a bf and I want the St F’d out of me tonight!
But you’re doing this in church . . . so I doubt that’s what you’re going for – although, who knows, nunnish whore?
Actually, the whole i’m a good-girl/slut thing does cater to one of the most predominant male fantasies of the virgin madonna who sings and squeaks like Madonna, under, of course, their holy charms. So who knows. But hey, seriously, go with something cute rather than sluty – and anything with a little sense of humor into your outfit ought to do the trick (makes you approachable).
Well that’s it. I’m starting to go to church from now on. And maybe hit a synagog and a buddhist temple on the way home.
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PG- what do people wear to your church? is it like a dressy church or a casual one?
Generally casual–and Ive pretty much have decided to not wear anything special…
Good decision. All in favor say Aye!
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What’s the weather where you live? if cold, black turtleneck, gold necklace, dress pants, low heeled shoes, and nice coat, not black. Then introduce yourself. Warm weather, wear lime green dress, this is same as yellow green isn’t it?Then ask the boy, do you like lime green?
what do you normally wear?
Um, this may be rude, but if he’s the right guy, won’t god make things come together naturally?
Im gonna wear jeans and a sweater…I dont know if God would just make it come together or if I gotta do something too…
Wear something that gives you a noticible waist/hip differential (sorry - that sounds like something on a car) ie: makes your waist look much slimmer than your hips. Guys caveman brains like somewhere around a 7:10 ratio. If your skin is free of any ghastly pimples, don’t wear much make-up. If you’ve got tits, flaunt them at about half-power. Leave the low cut top and the wonderbra at home.
He’s prolly not too sophisticated - so no French plaits or ‘up’ hair - You’ll make him physically wolf-whistle horny, but his cowardly brain will command his legs to run a mile.
Smile when he speaks. Jump on anything he says and run with it - Conversations are like ad-lib drama/comedy, the rule to extend them successfully is to never give completely negative answers, which shoot the conversation in the head. Say ‘yes and’ instead and go for a good segué to draw subjects seamlessly in other directions, rather than an abrupt “look ass-face, I wanna talk about Genesis, stop with the gosh-darn exodus already…”. Don’t yawn. Look for opportunities to touch ‘incidently’, but obviously, don’t sit on his knee, even if it is to illustrate the ‘!Kung native’s traditional sitting ritual’ which ‘just accidently’ cropped up in small talk.
That’s it - Wealth of knowledge depleted. Check his credit rating before marriage.
You could buy him a Ferrari too - Which would close the deal almost immediately.