if everybody plays by self=other rules, there are some who can “win” by cheating
in actuality that is losing
it is rigging the game
if you can’t win without rigging or cheating, you are a loser
if you make victims by how you cheat/rig, you are a loser
you really wanna flip the script and really win, go above and beyond (requires acknowledging self=other so that you DO see that you are an End and are not undervaluing yourself…) …and cheat in the opposite direction… and tell no one
That is what Jesus did.