Heart; Selecting the right woman

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I was born with a mental handicap.

To me it was just finding someone who said that they wanted to have and raise a family as best as they could.

4 wives latter and still trying.

I never believed that I had the mental ability to judge a persons future performance in the accomplishment of the task of marriage. The whole idea of being that cocky was and is somehow repulsive to me. And so I choose to live in the present, and let them be and become what they will. To learn them as they are. One has to have a persistent belief that people learn and grow. A persistent belief in the validity of marriage.

Hard way to go, but I still believe in it.

4 wives latter and still trying.

I always believed that love was something you built, that love was all the things two people did together to sustain and promote life.

Falling into love, well, I noticed at a very early age that emotion comes and goes. If love were immortal, than emotion was a fools game. Anything of value is built by shear force of will and understanding.

Heart, is a very old parable–constructed before man knew why.

What the heart takes in, is identical to what is inside, is identical to what it puts out, only force is added.

Perception determines conception conception determines will. And so the heart is a perfect metaphor for a functioning mind.

4 wives later and still looking for those eyes I can see forever in.

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Idjit dweeb king. What non sense you spew. I hope she makes you mop that up before it hurts anyone. Let me answer your question as posed by your title: Men do not select women, and women do not select men. People form such romantic relationships as they are able to do given the people, and personalities involved. Consider the value of personal growth, for example. jeeezus

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=D> :laughing: =D> :laughing: =D>

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Oh! :laughing:

Why thanks, Rhinoboy! :wink:

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This just goes to prove you don’t have to slap my balls to get me to take a bow. Thanks. And bow wow.

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:sunglasses: If she is exotic because of that what am I? I have ancestors from all over. They were not picky,thankfully :-" :smiley:

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I’m sure there’s room for more than one exotic female on this board! :wink:

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:laughing: I have always found it odd that Asians, South American Latins, Africans, American indians, and of course Euros, can look at me and tell I have their blood. It is one of the perks I guess for being a real human mutt. I am also grateful that the combo made me look quite passable on the pretty scale :laughing:

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Kris says:

Ummm, so you and Magsj are exotic… So where are the pictures? :sunglasses: :sunglasses: . It’s time to put those pics on the board…

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Ummmmm, no :unamused:

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Oh sure, tease and run… :wink:

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I did post a cropped pic of my face in one of the threads - good luck in finding it! :smiley:

I agree Kris, I look like the sum of my parts too, and boy doesn’t everybody else let you know about it too - sometimes it can be a bit of a lonely place: not belonging to any one race, and therefore not really being accepted by any one race :unamused: but boy do people just come up and start chatting away to ya about random things… :laughing:

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…but that’s what women do best, Tent: tease and run… :slight_smile:

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Retard…
How does the Heart’s desire equate to the Mind;s or to the Cock’s?

What does, you dim wit, “right” mean in the sentence “right woman”'?

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Heart means not thinking “O, God is she hot” or “what should I say, how should I respond”.

Heart means being present and letting all the internal talk disappear.

In fact you do not have to talk at all to women to do an effective pick up… you simply need to be fully present with smilie eyes (smiling with your mouth can be bad).

“right woman” means that you have principles, that you will not accept any old bitch, that she has to actually meet up to your standards!

In pick up… they say getting the woman to qualify herself… in other words you want her to actively seek your approval in one way or another.

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My guess is that the right woman for this guy is any boy or girl who will say yes. It’s like the story about the guy who had a date with a nymphomaniac, and she said, You know, I have this psychological condition that makes me want to go to bed with every man I go out with. And then she asked the guy if he knew the name of the condition, and he said: Sure; that’s called Good News!

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In other words, suspending reason so as instinct, the preprogrammed disposition and reaction to a stimulation, should be allowed free reign over your actions.

Many of these natural mechanism are irrational in that they are not interested in the immediate well-being of the actor but of his genes.
This is why rational thought put a damper on many of these instinctive activities.

Yes, intuition, chemical and subliminal messaging, devoid of any self-consciousness.

This is how emotions are meant to make reaction more efficient and make irrational activities more probable by eliminating the primary organic concern with survival.

So, from your statement I see that age is part of your “principles”?
From where do these principles come from?

A discriminating taste is what I call consciuosness.
The less conscious you are and the less self-conscious you are, the less discriminating you are.

But the term ‘right’ implies an ideal, where there is only one compromise that is acceptable when compromising is part of all relationships.
You may compromise a bit of beauty for a bit more of intelligence or character, but then you may meet another and be willing to compromise a bit of intelligence and character for a bit more beauty.

In the end the value judgment is based on a comparison, based on personal experience and how this personal experience has been affected by environment - in this case culture included.

This is nothing more than the reasonable tactic of allowing the female to make the first move, show interest, and exhibit her natural sexual power of choice.
It is only once you’ve been approved that she will seek out your approval.

If a woman is not interested then she will not give a shit about your approval.

In the sexual game the woman is in charge at the beginning and then loses control once she’s given herself to a male…for a short time.
This is a necessary evolutionary mechanism which enables a female to risk proximity, after evaluation, with another larger, stronger entity, and then allowing the ultimate act of intrusion so that insemination can happen.
This is all done chemically so that the natural stress associated with another, or the fight/flight mechanism, is suspended, thinking is curtailed and the sexual act can occur.

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Reason and rationality are instincts.

Any time someone uses an instinct over reason, they are choosing one instinct over another.

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No, reason is the control over instinct and so it is a product of self-consciousness.

Their commonality is that they are both rooted in existence, in other words need, weakness.

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Everyday is judgment day with women. They have to be seduced continually on a regular basis.

Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it) there is no point where you can start treating a woman like a rational being. Never expect a woman to automatically seek your approval just because you f… her brains out.

They generally are for our fun, joy, humor… and generally not for our logic, understanding, and wisdom.

So, I don’t see a beginning and an end… I only see a continuous state of being in relation with women.

If I am in this state they will automatically seek my approval.