Helluva impulsive/adictive personality you got there eru. Has being an alcoholic taught you nothing about yourself…?
Love is a completely different addiction than alcohol.
Also, “true love cannot be found where it truly does not exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does.” - Anonymous
I am not afraid of heartbreak because I know that true love doesn’t break! If it breaks it was false. Or it became false. Can true love become false? I don’t know, we shall see.
Actually no, same mechanisms in the brain. Dopamine and serotonin baby - that natural high.
Christ. Read some Popper. That’s what he’d call an unfalsifiable claim. Look Eru, you are very sure of yourself, and usually that’s a good thing. But look where being ‘yourself’ has gotten you in your past life… Alcoholism. Presumably a smattering of drug addiction too from what you’ve said. Capricious and a bit jump-to-conclusions-on-insufficient-evidencey too, from what I’ve read of your posts.
Basically, what I’m saying is yourself™ is a bit of a fuck-up at the moment, and you need to stop trusting it, and instead get into the habit of taking a moment to reassess situations from a more skeptical and rational viewpoint. Either that or there’s a high probability you’ll just continue to lurch from one screw-up to the next. Forever.
For example now. You like to drink. That’s a given. However at the moment you’re in a programme that seriously sets your rational mind against this alcoholic facet of your personality - the more subconscious “drinking-you”. That doesn’t mean that “drinking-you” is dead though, and it doesn’t mean “drinking-you” isn’t smart.
How about this for a scenario: Drinking-you is pissed-off. It wants to get drunk again, but knows your rational mind has been set against it, and knows it would take some serious kind of trigger to set rational-you back on the road to booze. What better trigger, drinking-you thinks, than a real trainwreck in your lovelife…? And so, it helps manufacture a situation which has a high probability of producing the necessary lovelife-trainwreck trigger, that will send you back to the booze so drinking-you can get well and truly fucked-up again.
Just a thought.
I have a psychologist already, Tab. But thanks for your erroneous input … wow. What a self-entitled prig! Only two or three of my posts touch on my alcoholism, and they don’t go into any detail about how things were in the throes of my addiction. Where is all of this coming from! You’ve got an outstanding imagination …
I trust in God, I beg him to rid of me the bondage of self each day … kenosis, key in Christian Theology. I am a Christian.
There wasn’t anything erroneous about Tab’s input. All he was suggesting was that you - and the rest of us - need to be a bit skeptical about what we think we know. Life is full of little surprises, surprises that occasionally suggest that we aren’t quite as bright as we think we are. But what the hell, if you can make “true love” work, more power to you. It’s all your triumph or tragedy. Either way, it’s YOURS.
If this was truly his intention, he wouldn’t have personalized the message. I can barely count how many untrue things he said about me in that short passage, there are so many. Tab is probably one of the most disgusting posters I’ve run into on the internet in my life, and I like being on the internet.
Yeah, that’s disgusting. I mean, wasting his time pointing out the potential pitfalls of rushing into a relationship. I can understand you not liking even considering the possibilities that there might be a kernal of wisdom in there. He wasted his time. Coming off of alcohol and forming a love relationship with another person coming down off of alcohol is perfect timing. I’m sure it will be a relationship made in heaven. No problems, no issues, love conquers all. Yup.
Always nice to make an impression. Make mine a double btw. But hey, you don’t have to do anything yourself, because God is reknowned for taking care of alcoholics. I think in the bible it says “And lo did the Lord our God smight the cocktail-shaker from the hands of the tempter.” (Gospel of St.Barfly 19:5).
And if God doesn’t work out, you can try the tooth fairy next, or Gandalf maybe. Heaven forbid you actually take any responsibility upon yourself. That would just be too fucking whacky.
Please don’t mock anyone who’s making an effort to change a life-style.
Sure. You’re totally right Lizbet.
On the other hand however, the non-mocking, supportive, positive-stroking, there-there-everything’ll-be-okay method never seems to work as well as it should does it…? Demolition being part of construction an’ all.
I agree with Tab.
You should murder him. That’s a good reason to start drinking again.
Yes, less mocking and more staying on-topic please… and much less ad Homs all round!
And maybe tea and buns later. 
Not important afterall, it’s only someone’s life.
No Tab… as you were but in a less ad hominous way please, then after we can have tea and teacakes or coffee and coffee cake 
I don’t know how you could possibly be so mean as to try and alert a stranger to a potential danger they may be unaware of. Saying something someone may not want to hear, you monster.
You’re worse than Hitler. Riding a shark.
In a playground.
(sorry Mags, is that ad hom?) 
“ad hominous way”. That’s it. I’m going to lobby the UN to make it compulsary to have a licence before people are allowed to write in an English-ious way in public. 
That’s perfectly good English right there Tab - you are being in the act of making an ad hominem, therefore you are being ad hominous - what’s not to get
…and no tea and biscuits for you OH! or anything else afternoon-teaish.
All of English apparently.
Grammar isn’t set in stone, and under that premise I like to play around with it 
so can we now get this thread back on track!
We have no idea on Eru’s will and integity so cannot make a judgement call on her progress, but jumping into a relationship whether a person is stable or not is always unwise, as a person may know their own intentions but not that of the other (as you also stated) so perhaps a step back to see what he is about may be called for…?
Your ad hominia will get you in trouble one of these days.
[size=85]Edit: Glad to see you keeping to the compulsory spelling mistake in a complaint about English usage [/size]